I have no problem with him being gay, I just think he'd be happier if out of the closet. He's never gone out with anyone. He's from a conservative background, although he seems fairly moderate on gay issues. I'm not even sure he realizes he's gay.
2006-10-09 18:51:33 · 29 answers · asked by Matthew K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
How do you know he's gay?
You would be wise to leave him alone. If he is, let him come out when HE'S ready.
2006-10-09 18:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way to start ferretting would be to introduce this roommate to a gay friend of yours, showing the roommate that you already have gay friends will make him feel more comfortable with you. Maybe bring up something gay in a conversation with him, like saying that you think it is total bullshit that gays can't get married. Drop hints that would let him know that you would be receptive and supportive if he came out to you. See if you can set him up via a gay friend who might have a little crush on him - you don't need to send him on a blind date, just let him deal with the fact that another guy likes him.
But you can't drag him out of the closet. Some people, espeically conservative Christian types, take a long time to be ok with being gay. Churches fill their heads with nonsense about how gay men are child molesting sex fiends with drug problems who never find happiness. He may think being gay is a sin or face hostile anti-gay parents or friends. I know gay people who went through periods where they thought they were asexual just because it made it easier.
Just keep being open, friendly, and gay accepting and hope it rubs off.
2006-10-10 04:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him be but let him know that he's always welcome to talk to you about anything and that he can tag along if you go to a club or anything like that. If he is gay and he is ready to come out, he'll either do it directly or say that he's just curious about gay lifestyle. don't push or you could lose a friend and lock that closet door forever. Of course he could be straight. Maybe he's even bi or has some other agenda like a fetish that overshadows the usual gender alignment.
2006-10-09 19:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. If he is gay, comming out of the "closet" has to be on his terms... not forced by someone else. You can coax him a little... maybe discuss gay issues and let him know that you think gay people are cool. Let him know you are someone he can confide in. But if he is gay, he will say it when and how and to whom he pleases.
2006-10-09 20:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will when his is ready just be there for him. What you might think would make him happier could be very scary for him.
Some people from those types of backrounds fear it getting back to family because the consiquences can be greater than you know.
I am out to friends at college but not at home. My mom knows but ignores it. When she found out it was the 1st time she ever hit me and if my father knew the majority of my finances for college would be gone.
2006-10-09 19:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by BabyBella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the matter with you, mind your own ******* business. Why don't you ive your own life, why are you trying to live his life.He probally loves his life the way it is. wow man what an interfering ******** you are. Leave him be, if he wanted you to know that he's gay he would tell you. And he's most likely frightened to tell you because you'd tell everyone else. why don't you just offer him some positive thought and support instead of interfering. I am not slamming you man, just offering help from a third party. goodluck
2006-10-10 00:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By becoming a true friend so that he feels comfortable enough to tell you without any negative feedback, he needs to know you don't have a problem with people being Gay - if he isn't Gay you might offend him - your call I think
2006-10-09 18:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Play some show tunes?
C'mon guy he'll come out when and if he's ready. Don't push just to prove the point that your Gaydar works.
2006-10-09 18:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by charley128 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't force him to come out... if he feels comfortable with it, then he would probably tell u.
Since some of my friends know me really well, they suspect that I am (which I really am), but I just dont feel comfortable coming out to them yet. I would tell them in the right time, when I am comfotable enough with my sexuality.
Oh, also, I dont think it is polite for u to ask him that too. When my friends ask me that question over and over again, I can get really annoyed... and it seems like they have no respect for me!
2006-10-09 19:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Travis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once was with a complete stranger (a guy) and he got totally trashed, I think because he didn't live here. Anyways, as the night went on he got gayer and gayer and I just said something like "well you're gay right?......" and he was like "Yeah, I guess I am..." That was about it, but I think it was the first time he admitted it to anyone. So try that I guess.
2006-10-09 18:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋