Is it possible for a marriage to stay wonderful, loyal, and true?

Question

Do you think that people can get married and stay happy and in love for a long time?

Answer 1

The responses of people with successful marriages is really overwhelming... it does inspire... Hints to people who still have some chances would be of greater help...
What could go wrong really ?.... Lack of understanding , inability to see things from other person's point of view, lack of TRUST, INABILITY to rise above narrow expectations, treating the spouse as a dependent for basic needs, allowing others(even very close friends & relatives) to interfere in emotional issues that are exclusive privileges of only the spouse , hesitation to show sincere appreciation in genuine situations(motivation), not alloting time to resolve difference of opinion, imbalance of negative emotions over positive ones, dissapproval of habits and traits, instead of accepting what cannot be easily changed, refusal for arriving at a commonality on financial matters, non-acceptance of health as an inevitable situation, and such many other endless items...!
Now many many 'live' examples are available very much, just around the corner, where even more grave situations were easily overcome just because the spouses somehow learnt to 'feel' the being of each other (something like a soul-mate experience, the more subtle bond, beyond the logical compromises, mutual benefit schemes, just the readiness to 'give' or do anything without any expectation or even acknowledgement in return !)...
My point is, there is a chance to reach a peak level of relationship, where the spouse starts accepting the other on "as is where is basis".... that is when they even seem to beat destiny, fate, everything !
So, there is a possibility if a decision(with a resolute will) is taken to really "make it work, what ever it takes !".

Answer 2

Three words will translate a happy, solid, and meaningful marriage.
The first word is " cleave "; It is found in the bible, " A man must leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife " ( Matt 19:5). Leave and Cleave! In other words, a man must leave his old ways behind and start a new life with his wife. Both must give freely and completely to each other, with no reservations and no secret alliances with old associates.
The second word is " consider "; They have to please each other and put each other as first priority in everything. How they spend their time, how they choose their friends, how they spend their money any major decisions have to be made with each other in agreement.
The third word is " communicate "; This is the key to happiness in the marriage. Never allow the way they communicate with each other to break down, 10-50 years of marriage, how they talk to each other will be the building block of that marriage.

And most importantly, when they first marry and they are in seventh heaven, lets hope they realize that maybe marriages are made in heaven, but all the maintenance work is done down here!
And that, to me, is a foundation for a happy commitment!

Answer 3

Marriage is like a gamble. If you win, you will have a happy marriage but if you lose, you will suffer. Actually its takes two person to makes a marriage works. There will be a lot of up and down during marriage life and only time will tell how true our love to each other.

Answer 4

I do, but the question is, do YOU? I believed it could happen and so I worked for it to happen. Married 17 yrs now and Iove him very deeply. Going thru the really bad, hard things made us both understand that with true committed love (ie: not giving up when the going is really REALLY rough) strengthened our union.

Our kids can see how much we love eachother and do not back bite nor argue in front of them. We present a united front and discuss things like mature people (no name calling...)

So, my answer is yes! I chose to have a marriage like that and therefore, I do have one. It seems to me that the majority of the world does not think it is possible because there are so many "acceptable alternatives" to a solid marriage.

Answer 5

Definately yes. Good marriages are built on shared values, respect for yourself and your partner and a belief that you never give up loving someone. I don't think there is just one person for each person, but I do believe in the committment that when you say "yes", it doesn't come with conditions...it's just "yes" for a lifetime. Good marriages are not built on sex or living together to pretend or try things out...they are a committment before God, so he needs to be involved long before the vows are spoken.
I adore my husband, miss him when he isn't here and am always thinking of ways to make him smile. He is part of me and I definately want to be a happy person. I didn't settle for the first person to come along and propose marriage...I knew my worth and waited until I found someone who knew it too. How do you know when you have found the right person? It will not be just someone you can live with...but someone you cannot live without.

Answer 6

It wont stay "new" but it's possible to stay happily married as long as both are willing to put in the necessary effort. It definitely takes two. I've seen plenty of older people who are happy together after 30 or 50 years or more.

Answer 7

Yes Absolutely!!! You have described the desirable fruits of marriage but you cannot wish and keep quiet. The fruit is available if you raise the plant into a wonderful tree. You have to nurture your relationship and work at reducing your ego. Put the other person before self and it has to be done by both not by only one of the spouses. Both of you need to communicate at all times and have to learn to trim the thorns and allow the rose to bloom. Best of luck.

Answer 8

I have been married for 38 years to my high school sweetheart. When we go places together people still think we are newlyweds. He tells me I am more beautiful than the day he married me. I tell him he must have God's glasses on. :-)

Answer 9

We are going on seven years and so far, our marriage is all of those things and more. It takes hard work and commitment.

Answer 10

yes. You need to agree on almost everything though. Weather it be raising kids, who pays the bills, religion, politics, hugs when you're sad, and no matter how mad you are, you still have to be affectionate to your spouse (even though you're pissed), in front of the children, cuz he's the one who you sleep with.