trying to get pregnant for 2 years?

Question

i've been trying to get pregnant for two years and NOTHING. my period is very irregular but it always comes eventually it usually comes between once every 2-3 months...my gyno is of absolutely NO help. i'm 23 and she keeps telling me she thinks i'm too young and tells me that yes i can get pregnant and keeps trying to prescribe me birth control because she doesnt want me to get pregnant! she tells me that i CAN get pregnant although she hasnt further checked me out for anything other than a pap smear. however my husband and i are very secure financially and i've always wanted to be a young mother. could something be wrong with me? its been two years for god sakes and i'm starting to wonder if i can even have kids at all. advice?

Answer 1

Go to a new doctor. I am 25 and have a five year old and a three month old. Twenty three is not too young. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 2

I have always had irregular periods since i was 14 - i am now 31. My husband and i started trying 4 years ago and after seeing a fertility specialist were told that if it hasnt happened within 12 months presuming you are both healthy then that is the time to start seeking assistance. You should see a specialist and he/she will test you for various things including thyroid probs etc.

If you are really keen to become pregnant i would think about switching Dr's. Anyway to cut a long story short i did about 3 years of fertility drugs and then was told that i would have to try ivf and i wasnt that keen so decided to put it off. Then low and behold it happened naturally. I am now 20 weeks pregnant.

I guess if you are having irregular periods it does make it harder to conceive as you cant plan sex on your most fertile days and there is a good chance you do not ovulate as regularly. The good news is - it can still happen. I am proof. I am 31 and the baby is a boy the ultrasound tells us....yay!

Good luck..........you are young. It will happen

Answer 3

First I would advice you to see another Ob/Gyn. You are paying her to help you and if she can't or isn't trying to get the answers that you need you should try another doctor. Someone who is irregular has more difficulty in becoming pregnant because you don't know when exactly you are ovulating. A RN once told me if you are on birth control pills to stop, you will start your period a couple of days later, once you do count 14 days, from the day you start, and then have intercourse. I always thought you should wait until the Birth Control Pill has exited your body to start trying to get pregnant. However, she said with women who are irregular the best time is the first 2 months afteryou STOP taking birth control. A good doctor also checks the husband just to rule him out. Relax, try not to think about it, and Good Luck!

Answer 4

I never thought I could have children. I tried for a year without any luck. My doctor even prescribed Chlomid and nothing worked. I finally forgot about trying for 8 months and started getting ME healthy. I lost 32 pounds, exercised and ate healthy food. I then bought a fertility monitor for $200 and the first month I got pregnant.
The key with me is that I have never had a regular period unless I was on birth control pills. I used to have one period a year when I was a teenager. Finally when I was 20, my doctor put me on birth control. When I turned 35, I stopped taking the pills because it was affecting my blood pressure.
After 35, I never used any type of birth control and still didn't get pregnant, so I thought it would never happen.
I passed that monitor on to a friend and she also had been having problems getting pregnant. She is extremely obese and doesn't ovulate regularly, so she really needed help. It helped her detect when her peak time was. They tried and she is now 6 months pregnant at age 40.
These monitors are really worth their weight in gold.
Best of luck.

Answer 5

My doctor tells me that not too many women get their period every 28 days (unless they are on the pill) but as long as it comes in regular intervals, it means that you are still ovulating. If your period is arriving every two to three months, it sounds to me like you are fairly regular - just not as frequent as some. The link below helped me to map out when I am most fertile.

Your gyno is obviously allowing personal issues to interfere with giving you proper medical attention. This is bordering on unethical behaviour. It is up to you and your husband to decide if the time is right to conceive a child, it is not up to your gyno - unless there is a medical reason why your shouldn't become pregnant. In my personal opinion (I am not an expert), I believe that after two years of trying to conceive, your gyno should have done more than just a pap smear test on you. You need to seek out another gyno. Happy hunting :)

Answer 6

This may sound like a very silly answer to you, but it makes sense to me, bear with me here. I had my son when I was 18 years old, and since I was still in High school, they had a in school program for the pregnant/teen moms. I was in a class with 30 other girls who were pregnant just like me.
On the flip side, I would go to the gyno office, and see lots of women-married,hard working,secure-who couldn't concieve. So, I asked the 30 girls in my class about it, why can we all get pregnant when women who are in a better situation than us can't?
Answer, The sex. NONE of us used ANY type of contreception at all just because we were scared we were going to get caught by an adult, and we did it with our boyfriends wherever, whenever the mood struck us and I mean everywhere but a bedroom. Cars, quickies on the floor, lockerrooms, the bus. Sex all the time, several days a week, no matter what time in our cycle because the teen hormones got the best of us. Too tired wasn't an excuse, and young lust got us all in the end. Be carefree about it, relax, be like teenagers again, make it fun. I am not an expert, but see if that works.

Answer 7

Right off the bat, dump the doctor. It is absolutly none of their business if you are ready to start a family. After 2 years of trying to concieve it is time to get some real help, and that starts with you and your husband getting checked out. Sometimes you can both be healthy with ok reproductive parts and still not get pregnant. It's like a clock that;'s out of sync. Good luck., and don't get hung up on it, there are other ways to have a family such as adoption,

Answer 8

You are in the prime of your reproductive years, so your fertility really isn't in question, its your enviroment that affects how well your body is able to concieve. There are alot of reasons that young women have the eggs, but can't get pregnant. If your weight changes rapidly, if you are anorexic, or any other eating disorder, obese, very active in sports or physical activities, and so on. Some birth controls can leave residual effects that cause you to ovulate more slowly, or will leave your vaginal secretions to acidic for sperm to survive. After time of being exposed to your husbands sperm, your body will lower thier defenses. If you are over stressed, depressed, or don't currently have a psycological disorder under control or are taking meds for it can all screw with your bodies receptiveness for conception. If you really look at all the conditions, look them up. Planned Parenhood is great with thier information extended to fertility issues. If you are ready to have a baby, and you really feel that you can afford fertility treatments, look up another doctor. Women healths centers is another good type of place to look for credible information. I wish you luck. Blessed Be

Answer 9

You should def see a new ob/gyn. No need to see this doctor if she is not helping you. 23 is not too young, I am 23 as well, have a 5 year old and am trying to get pregnant again. It does take longer when you are trying to get pregnant. Here is a link to a website that I have been looking at that has helped me alot, hope it helps you as well. http://health.discovery.com/centers/pregnancy/preconception/preconception.html

Answer 10

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.