Did this ex cheat on his wife of 9 months with me? What should I do about it? I feel awful.?

Question

I think this guy cheated with me on his new wife of 9 months. Out of the blue he looked me up (went to a lot of trouble to find me) & tell me how the time he spent with me was happiest of his life. Then he drops bomb he is married for 9 months but unhappily so, got rushed into marrying girl because her dad was dying & she wanted him to walk her down aisle. Tells me can still feel electricity in our kiss, taste me - I send him back to wife to talk to her - he comes back & says he feels better, but I am all he can think about & he doesnt want to abandon her but he wants to have relationship w/me, then proceeds to get EXPLICIT with me, telling me how he would like to have hours & hours to make love to me & sends inappropriate pictures. He has made me the other woman in his marriage whether I like it or not!! I get mad at him for dragging me into it & demand an apology and he goes to his MOM, lies about it & she calls me screaming at me, threatening me. Did he cheat? What do I do?

I slept with this person before he was married because we dated. I did not sleep with him now - I was trying to be a good friend and thats why I talked to him, because I did still care for him. BUT I told him he didnt want me - to go talk to his wife!!! He has put me through an emotional wringer.

I did threaten to tell his wife if he didnt stop, and thats why he went to his Mom and lied about it and she called me 5 times, even at my business, and called me all sorts of horrible things that I DONT DESERVE because I SENT HIM BACK TO HIS WIFE WHEN I COULD HAVE SLEPT WITH HIM, but chose not too. SO his Mother is threatening to ruin me and my business if I hurt her son???? Threatens legal action, threatens the police - mind you I can prove I was not the one who contacted him, and I did not send pictures of my anatomy, but of course Mommie dearest wouldnt believe that and kept calling me terrible things. Says her son is being treated for depression, as if that is an excuse for the things he said to me. My friend read what he wrote - she said it is Grade A PORN!!! I just dont know what to do at this point - forget it, tell his wife, put a restraining order on the MOM????

Answer 1

He isn't worth the time, or the effort that your heart seems so prepared to give.

Sometimes, you just have to be cold about it.

It's understandable that his mother defends him. God fobid, not HER boy, right? Ha. Yes, her boy. We all know how that story ends.

Answer 2

He is lying to you girl. He is simply cheating on his wife with YOU. You really have to be sincere with yourself (and I think that you have been, but you really do not want to accept it) and accept the fact that you are actually his lover (well, if you've already become sexually involved with this guy) or the "other". And about him making you his othe woman in his life, YOU can actually change that yourself. You UNMAKE yourself the other woman and get him out of your life NOW. Girl, you know that he did cheat. What should you do? Forget about demanding an apology!! A guy like that couldn't even apologize sincerely cause he doesn't even know what that is if he was heartless enough to do that to the both of you (you and his wife, I mean).

Answer 3

Did you sleep with him already? You're as guilty as he is. You should have never put yourself in that situation. Haven't you heard the term, Just say No? Especially after you find out if he's married.
Do you not realize he's just using you, he wants his cake and eat it too. Wise up! You're the other woman by choice, so don't complain. It takes two to have an affair. If you have any respect for yourself you'll end it because he won't. And if he had respect for you he would have got a divorce before he began an affair with you.

Answer 4

Consult with an attorney. The cost of an attorney in protecting your business is a deductible business expense. This guy sounds more like a loser than a depressive jerk. Report him to the police as a stalker; and his mother, too. Everybody should just get on with their lives. If he is not satisfied with his wife tell him to get a blow up doll as that is just his speed.

Answer 5

U need to wake up . Don't answer his calls . Block his email etc. U have control don't let him have control. if there is threats . U have someone witness it.Write drop what was said and time and date. Also read your phone book. It tells u how to trace the calls. and more imformation on the subject.Then continues file a retraining order.I would not notify his wife some woman wouldn't want to believe it. Let her wake up.

Answer 6

Yes he cheated and you were right there with him. You KNEW he was married so YOU made yourself the other woman YOU put your self into it and you do not deserve an apology from him but his WIFE deserves an apology from the both of you.

Answer 7

He cheated on his wife with you. Completely, completely ignore this horrible person. He's just using you as his 'fantasy other woman' don't be like that. Just completely ignore him and if he won't let up...tell him that you will tell his wife.

Answer 8

So you never slept with him???? He is a psycho, stay far far away from that whole mess. The moment he contacted you he betrayed his wife, what you do is all on you.

Answer 9

Of course he cheated. And you helped him.......and continue to help him. Good grief girl. Can you not see that you're being USED? Drop him and his mother like a cupla hot horse shoes!

Answer 10

you have done nothing wrong ,he has a big problem and so does his mother ,stop all contact now before it gets worse ,change your phone number if you have to ,cut them dead .