My parents are currently separated and I'm living with my mother in SW Virginia, while my dad lives and works in DC. This is the first holiday season with them separated, and I don't know what to do. My dad'll be all alone in DC, while most of my family lives around SW Virginia, so they'll all be at my current house for the holidays and I can't miss them. I also don't want to leave my dad alone for the holidays, and I love visiting him because he's in a big city, and there's so much fun stuff to do. How do I figure out how to decide where to go for the holidays?
2006-10-09 17:47:38 · 13 answers · asked by Lauren 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It really sucks you have to go through this. I am sorry you have to deal with your parents separation. However, you shouldn't have to decide, it should be a family decision. You should alternate holidays with your parents. You could spend Thanksgiving with your mom, Christmas with your Dad, and then New Years with your mom and then do the opposite next year (or something like this). Talk to both your mom and dad about this and come to an agreement so you can stop stressing about this and feel uncertain about where you will spend the holidays.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-09 17:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by LasVegasMomma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the advice to spend alternating holidays with each parent is the right thing to do. With Christmas break being so long, typically, you can probably divide up the time between the two of them, so you just have to plan on Thanksgiving with dad for this year, Christmas with both, then next year...well, see what happens between now and then. Things can change a hundred times and in a hundred ways between now and next year. Good luck.
2006-10-10 00:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You trade off, one holiday with Dad and the other with Mom. You can spend time with the one that you're not going to see on the actual holiday maybe a week before or after so you can still celebrate together. They must understand that you feel torn, don't stress just enjoy the time you do spend with them both.
2006-10-10 01:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your Dad. Or he'll just be another lonely man wandering in DC alone for the holidays. But make sure your mom is okay with that, you do have to live with her and if she's annoyed with you, it won't help matters. Spend your holidays with your Dad and next time stay here.
2006-10-10 01:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was younger we alternated holidays. I'd get her for Thanksgiving her dad had her for Christmas, the following year he would have har at Thanksgiving and she would be with me for Christmas. I suggest you discuss the holidays with both of your parents, (if you can get them in the same room without a battle it would be easier for you) find out what their plans are for the holidays and work from there.
2006-10-10 01:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, ask your Dad what he is doing..he may have plans of his own.. a possible vacation or spending time with friends etc... if he says he has nothing on, why not arrange to meet him over the holidays... your mother will understand..and if she doesn't you will begin to see why they are no longer together.
2006-10-10 00:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tuff one for you I know... but, you could split the holidays... thanksgiving with one this yr, Christmas with the other... then next yr reverse it, that is the only fair way... but I know this yr is the big prob. yr... talk to both parents and ask them what they think about it all ... if YOU can not make the choice , let them do it for you... make sure you tell them all you feel and why, tell them you expect them to be grown up enough to come to some sort of agreement... by the way, are you under 18 ?? God bless
2006-10-10 00:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd go see my dad if I was in that situation and had the opportunity. The rest of the family wont be alone and will get over it if you're not there.
2006-10-10 00:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your dad this year! the rest of your family will understand!
and it sounds like it will be a good time.
id probably also ask him what he would like to do. get his opinion on the matter.
things will work out form year to year!
2006-10-10 02:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by KayHuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your dad and enjoy your holiday.
2006-10-10 00:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋