When we got married WOW!!!!!!. It was great but now he does not turn me on anymore and he only hang go for 20 min. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 17:46:06 · 30 answers · asked by ac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you thought marriage was just about sex, then you shouldn't be married.
2006-10-09 17:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In most marriages there are times everyone feels that way. If u want your marriage to work . U need to be patient. Talk to him about going on dates doing things u did before or U take the lead and do something different . U could take him out for dinner at a hotel and have a room reserved have roses trailing the way to the bed. Have a few drinks to both relax, If u don't drink thats still okay too. Flirt with him. touch him don't have to be overly specially in public or if u guys did before then do it. Then tell him u have a surprise. Its a sometimes a phase in a marriage. Its to be the same old thing for both. If that doing things to spice it up doesn't work. Talk to him don't blame him just say u need more excitement. There is so much u can come up with if u use your imagination Too many divorces because no one takes the time to look for solutions . At least u are asking. And he may feel the same. thats y its so short. Good Luck
2006-10-10 01:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by atouchofsugar 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with him. Tell him that you miss the excitement and that you want to experiment. Buy a book of positions and stress that you enjoy foreplay so much that you want it to be extended more and more rather than quickly finished. While he's doing it, tell him to slow down and mentally put yourself in the mood because the guys shouldn't have to do all the work. Make yourself feel sexy by wearing something sensual, trying out new things and positions, using candles and massage and do talk to him in an encouraging way otherwise you'll hurt his feelings and his performance will suffer. Don't say "I'm not attracted to you anymore or sex is booooring!" because effective communication means not letting the other person get defensive. Then they won't listen.
2006-10-10 00:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - Wrong question. The correct one is "Why Doesn't My Husband Turn Me On Anymore?" followed by "and What Can I Do To Get Us Back To That?"
Either you do something to fix the problem or call the lawyer in the morning.
Good Luck,
A
2006-10-10 00:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Alan 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you're losing the 'sparks' in a marriage, huh? Well, best thing to do is to tell him very politely and maybe even indirectly that he doesn't turn you on. But remember, a marriage is about love, not sex. So don't go running to some other guy who turns you on to give you something your husband can. Plus, try to put yourself in his shoes and see what you will feel when your wife told you that she doesn't get turned on. Pretty bad, alright.
2006-10-10 00:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is a way to get that romance back, to rekindle the embers. And that is to work at it. You two should read "His Needs, Her Needs" by Willard F. Harley, Jr. Read it together, out loud, to each other, taking turns, while laying in bed. Then, talk about it. This book shows you how to take care of each others' needs. When you do that, the butterflies will come flying back.
2006-10-10 00:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Morpheus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite your [complaining and work with him there are a lot of things you can do to improve the situation. Where did you get the idea that it was all up to him to please you? love making takes two people and starts with flirting in many different ways this can go on for hours the actual sexual intercourse is just the finale in love making, Go and get a good book and read it then practise
2006-10-10 00:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well my husband got to where all we did was hey lets go to the bed room and all we did was get to it no foreplay or anything just wam bam thank you and that was it then i decided to tell him about some things that i wanted to try out and he went for it and we also sat down and told eachother what we wanted from one another and it was very informatable and we found some things out about one another and now he is ordering things off the net for us you could try and get some sex games and see what happens from there they are fun they have some things that can really help out in the bedroom try going to dreams.com and go to the toys4pleasure and check it out good luck
2006-10-10 00:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by sdelight_192002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in a relationship is work. Both of you have to work together.
Try talking to him about the changes you have noticed within yourself with him. You no how guys are try not to put him down.....Maybe he feels there needs to be some spice too?
Never no till you communicate with him.
Good luck!
2006-10-10 00:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Huh...did you marry him for the sex or for better or worse? Good grief. If you're not turned on him anymore sexually, go to therapy...marriage counseling...try & spice up your love life. Desire will wane after a while in a relationship--that's normal...what you do about it is up to you! Good luck!
2006-10-10 00:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by Froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you know the exact reasons why he doesn't turn you on anymore? Can you kind of phrase it in a way that isn't offensive, or maybe say you'd like to try the types of things that do turn you on.
2006-10-10 00:49:00 · answer #11 · answered by ucd_grad_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋