I've been married for less than a year, and I adore my wife. 2 month ago I cheat 2X with the same girl.. WHY?

Question

I love my wife and i hurt her alot, she feel like I'm a no good... What do I have to do to keep her??

Answer 1

Are you sure you love her?

Answer 2

If you love your wife as you claim then why are you cheating on her if you love and adore her? That's not love or respect for your wife is it.? Come on man and get a grip of reality.
Maybe your more the kind of person who cares for her and obviously you have some emotional attachment for her and love her to some degree, but its not real love you have if you can cheat on her because people who really do love each other would never even consider cheating on the other.

There's NO excuses for cheating but if you don't love the one your with the same then your more likely to cheat, but cheating is not the way to try and solve your marriage problems or distract you from them.
In my opinion, your best to end your marriage because your likely to go on cheating on her over the years and this will only cause her more heartbreak and a lot of wasted time and effort in the marriage, that you both would probably regret. Sorry to be so harsh, but usually once a cheater always a cheater and usually people who cheat and go on cheating, will go more underground to cover their tracks. Your only using your wife if your cheating and that's so disrespectful and its certainly not love, and that's not a sign saying your guys are ment to be together is it?
Do the decent thing and let her go, yes it will be painful for both of you for a while, but life goes on, and then maybe she will find someone in the future who will really love and respect her. She deserves better.

Answer 3

You must answer that question yourself, if you love your wife, then why did you cheat on her? Life is not greener on the other side. You married this girl because you did love her, or did you just marry her so no one else could have her, there is a big difference between the two. Look to yourself for answers, your wife is right YOU ARE NO GOOD.

Answer 4

You adore your wife-you love your wife,which one is it oaf.Only you know why you cheated with the same bint x2-no use asking us why is it.You wife is right,you ARE no good-and she is TOO good for you.Spineless gutless dogshite bathscum-please do you,your 'ex wife' now(i sincerely hope)and us all a big favour and die of cancer-a heart attack(if you have one in there)or some other form of slow agonising death.I have said this before about cheats on here,and no doubt it will not be the last,you cheaters are in between rapists and paedophiles-you should all be flogged.MORON.

Answer 5

Can't solve your "Why" Q.
Seems conflicting to say that you love and adore the woman that you (I assume) took an oath to be with, yet unable to honor and respect.
Imagine, your wife writing your question.....married less than a year and seeking the arms of another man. Why?
Not felling right with you?
Not feeling good about herself?
Regardless of where the broken contract or promise evolves, consider stating a sincere position and requesting forgiveness. That would be for your soul. If she wants details of the affair, you must be truthful and willing to talk about it over and over.
But don't misunderstand that she must accept.
It could be that you were or are not ready to settle down.

Answer 6

My husband cheated too, but we are working through our problems. The only thing to do is be totally honest from now on, and maybe go to counselling, it has helped us. There's a website here about rebuilding a marriage after an affair.
You also need to cut the other girl out of your life, if you are serious about making your marriage work. If you work together, leave and get a new job, even move home if you have to.

Answer 7

I really think being a cheater is like being gay. It's not a choice it is in the wiring. A non cheater would find it very hard to cheat on a wife or husband, even if the marriage sucked. A cheater can cheat on someone they are infatuated with.

You people really need to recognize you are wired a little differently, come out of the closet and only have relationships with other cheaters. Embrace your swinger lifestyle together and stop hurting monogamous people.

Answer 8

If she hasn't walked out the door already, I'm very surprised! What you need to understand is that you have to EARN trust. After what you have done to her she may never trust you completely again. You are going to have to prove to her that you will NEVER do it again by being extra careful of where you are and what you're doing for a long long time. Don't make her police you, police yourself. Tell her everywhere you go, spend all your free time with her making her feel like she's the number 1 woman in your world. Do all this with a smile, because she'll know if you're resenting it.
Just think what you would want from her if she did what you did.

Answer 9

only you can answer WHY. What do you do now....well that depends on the why? Explain....if you cheated cause you feel you had a reason...than try to explain see a counsellor but if you cheated just cause she was hot ....then you are in trouble my friend....cause i believe once you have done it once you will do it again.....i know i have been there...and it got easier each time.

Did you tell your wife or did she find out? This has alot to do with the damaged caused as well.

Answer 10

you may be having fun now cheating, however your wife WILL find out, and you will loose alot more than your self asteem. if you really love your wife then no other woman should compare and be of temptation to you, if you loved your wife you should have the abillity to say "NO"

Answer 11

I think you've already lost her, if this is your definition of love then I'm afraid you are sadly mistaken. You wouldn't have done this and risked everything if you truly loved your wife - let her find a real man who will treat her properly, you are a real ar*ehole in my eyes - and no doubt in your wife's eyes too.