him a new band in july i gave it to him i had to leave him a death in fam for 6 day and still nothing i am pissed it was our 15 th i know by now not to get hopes up but it still hurts he cant seem to understand that ill get it when i get it. its just another day we both love each other and i have told him it hurts i just get so mad at him what would you do man or woman
2006-10-09 17:37:01 · 16 answers · asked by rradboys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The one thing I got out of your complaint was "its just another day and we both love each other." That is all the gift you need doll...you are one of the lucky ones. Be grateful.
2006-10-09 19:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is realize there's enough junk around the house already. However, if I tell her it hurts, does she reply? If not, I might want to know whether she was to busy at work to think about something as trivial as a material gift. Has she been praying for me? You are leaving much out so it's hard to answer.
Do I remind her it's our anniversary and does she say anything special to me? If not, I might ask her why not and see if I can help her.
I'm afraid I don't understand all of what you wrote -- "he cant seem to understand that ill get it when i get it"
but this part is the most important: "we both love each other"
2006-10-10 17:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not gotten the message by now I suggest you buy your own gift, at least that way you have the gift and you have acknowledged the event, For some men gifts are just not that important to show love or affection. You have been married for 15 years, if this is the biggest problem he causes you , do you not believe you should be grateful? I can think of a lot worse problems and people would love to have yours, I am not belittling your complaint, but it is easily fixable and that is a blessing
2006-10-09 17:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt. Stop getting him gifts. Does he at least tell you happy anniversary, birthday or merry Christmas? Me and mine don't always have the money for gifts like that, but we make it up to each other in other ways. Don't be materialistic. Just make sure he understands if he doesn't want to or can't get you material things then he needs to treat you with the utmost love and respect.
2006-10-10 01:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Rradboys,
Has anyone ever told you that you are a ceremony junkee? You need to know that on certain dates you will certainly be thanked.
Your husband refuses to play this game and is waiting for you to grow up. It's easy to be sympathetic with him.
I have this creepy notion that there was a Christmas or birthday in your childhood where you were burned or got nothing or got some tacky thing that was a lot less than you wanted, and you've been on the warpath seeking revenge ever since.
If you have a spouse who loves you and trusts you and is glad to be living with you, you have more than I have --and, yes, I get little packages on my birthday and for Christmas.
2006-10-09 17:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People treat you the way you teach them to.
Tell him that you want to be treated special for your anniversary, & it doesn't matter that it's a belated celebration for THIS YEAR. But for next year he'd better get it right, & on time.
It's pointless to just silently stew about it, so either speak up or get used to the way things are right now.
2006-10-09 17:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts don't really have to mean anything, but taking you out to dinner and atleast saying happy anniversary, would be nice!I would be upset if I didn't atleast get that.I'm not much on needing gifts.I would us rather save the money.
2006-10-09 17:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly if he's not into giving gifts and you are...that's your problem. He should acknowledge that you like this and do this to make you feel good...but he doesn't have to. You have to see if he's doing other things that shows he loves you and concentrate on that. Small things like gifts don't matter if he's loving, caring, affectionate and considerate to you. There are a lot of guys buying their wives expensive jewellery and then sleeping with other women instead. Do you want him like that instead?
2006-10-09 17:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him a few weeks ahead of time what he wants for his birthday or Christmas, tell him what you want a few weeks ahead of time. As for anniversary, ask him a few weeks ahead of time what he wants to do for your anniversary. Mark the days on a calendar where he will be sure to see it.
2006-10-09 17:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married it wasn't in order to get gifts on our anniversary or for my birthday or to get them on time. I didn't base our relationship on things he got me and it didn't phase me that I would get him something really nice for his birthday and he wouldn't get me anything. That isn't what marriage is about. Actually that isn't what relationships are about. If you're expecting gifts every "special event" then maybe you're married to the wrong guy?
2006-10-09 18:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋