My husband I were married for two years and divorced. Most of that time I spent falling out of love with him. During our seperation I found another man we have been together for a year is it to soon to marry him I mean should I wait longer or what?
2006-10-09 17:36:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's too soon. You say you spent time falling out of love with your "husband", not ex-husband, and that you "found" another man, not fell in love with another man. I think this was your rebound guy, which is fine and those relationships can last a while, but I don't think he's the one. Good luck.
2006-10-09 17:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right for you...what is time...what is it or who is it your worried about "not impressing"... are you asking if its socially acceptable...who really cares...if you are divorced and have been openly seeing this guy then the Bull**** opinions and rumors have already been started...your a grown woman...you are the only one who will know if you have been separated long enough...there's no "Bright Line" rule that says you must wait 1 year 4 months 17 hours 22 minutes and 8 seconds before you are emotionally able to proceed with another relationship, even if it involves marriage...you learned from the last one....just don't get married for the wrong reasons...you may be ready for you, but are you ready for him, put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself that same question. Look at it this way...if this marriage fails as well...you already have a lawyer...lol...DONT WORRY...BE HAPPY :)
2006-10-09 17:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by ca_ruff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why jump into anything fast? If ever in doubt, don't do it. I think it would be a good idea to wait at least another year. See how the relationship plays out first. Sometimes, within just a year you are still getting to know each other. Be patient, what is right for you the answer should come easier where you don't have to be asking a bunch of strangers.
2006-10-09 17:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband when I was 16, and at about 18, I said God, it's getting too serious, how do I know if he is THE ONE, and I told him I had to go out alone and see if I wanted to meet other guys. He said OK, he'd be at the same place if I wanted to come back. Turned out I wanted no other guy. But we took 7 years to get engaged, by then, we really knew each oThers flaws as well as qualities. We have just celebrated our 11th year of marriage and have 2 kids. Take your time. You've got to know someone really well to say that you could spend the rest of your life with him and grow old by his side. Do not rush into marriage, why not live together and see how it clicks?
2006-10-09 17:44:29 · answer #4 · answered by pegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how long you knew your husband before marrying him, but a year is plenty of time. I believe a marriage can be 'wrong' even if you know someone for 10 years and 'right' even if you know him for 10 weeks! But a year is about as good as it/he gets.
2006-10-09 17:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, wait a little longer. sounds like you crushed the last relationship with the disinterest and fell out of love, so allow yourself time to se how in love you really are now.
2006-10-09 17:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not too soon as long as its love,but whats the rush-why do u have to get married.my partner and i have been together for 13 years and have 3 children-we r not married!
2006-10-09 17:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this new man, do what feels right in your heart.
Keep in mind that life is short and you DESERVE to be happy.
Love is a wonderful thing. Best of luck to you on your road to happiness.
2006-10-09 17:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by arcabear69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with this current man, and if he's asked you....go ahead and marry him, its not that bad a deal!
2006-10-09 17:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you if it's too soon or not. Only you know how you feel. Do what feels right.
2006-10-09 17:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by matty.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋