Should you tell a friend that you don't think he shouldn't marry a certain woman ?

Question

She's got real psychological problems that everyone can see except him.

Answer 1

All women have psychological probems.

Answer 2

I 'm sure that your question is "Should you tell a friend that you don't think that he should marry a certain woman?

You said that the woman whom your friend is marrying has psychological problems. But love is love and only your friend has the right to decide for himself. Whether he is right or wrong to marry that girl is a thing that he and only he is accountable for. You may tell him about that woman's psychological problems and it is up to him to think about it.

But to tell him not to marry that girl for what she is may be offensive. You may just offend your friend who might think that you are not giving him the right to act on his behalf. So, it's better for you not to say anything to that effect. I know that you are concerned about his welfare but nobody knows what the future brings. At the end, that woman may just be the perfect woman for your friend. And let's all hope for that.

Answer 3

If you say 'don't marry her', he'll do it anyway and you'll lose a friend. Stay supportive of him in the good and bad times of the marriage and if it collapses, be ther for him and don't say 'I told you so'. Its best to stay out of a man's love life because although you see her psychological problems, he maybe in love with them and you'll only end up the bad guy.

Answer 4

No-I don't think you should. He could get very upset with you and it may end your friendship. Just be there for him, support him, but distance yourself from him and this woman. He will see what she's like sooner or later if he doesn't already. If he needs your help, he will come to you. And when he does, THEN you can give him your advice. OK? But it's his decision and you have to accept it.

Answer 5

I don't think that I would recommend telling him he shouldn't marry someone. That's obviously his call. You can voice your concerns, once, or twice, but if he is intent on marrying her, all that will happen, is you will ostracize yourself from him. If he still chooses to marry her, stick by his side & remain his friend. If she's crazy as you say--he'll need friends when he finally wakes up & realizes it. But, I REALLY recommend not bashing his head in with your opinion. It does nothing but distance yourself from the person.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You can try but do not be surprised if he out rejects you attempt at trying to help him. The old saying is really true, Love is blind, unfortunately it can be dumb and stupid as well. Do try and if you can give him good examples you might get his attention, do not pass along gossip, this is a case of the truth will set you free

Answer 7

You risk destroying your friendship by talking his woman down. He'll learn his own lessons. All you really can do is continue to be his friend in the meantime.

Answer 8

If people have told him , then there isn't much you can do.
He is an adult and capable of making his own decisions and also capable of dealing with the consquences of those decisions.

Maybe he is her stregth and they will be good for each other.

Answer 9

I have a neighbor like that, he was single for several years, met this psycho lady and her 2 kids, which one of them is psycho too!(the older one)..sseriously craaaaazzzzy! And i can't hardly believe, he thinks their normal?? ..of course,he's a drinker,so that doesn't help matters.

Answer 10

Its really his decision. I wouldn't tell them. They might end up not wanting to be your friend. He might truely love this person and if she does have problems he will learn on his own.