My boyfriend of 4 years has decided that we need to spend sometime apart to figure out what he wanted to do with our relationship. I moved out and we are just technically taking a break. I miss him and love him but he said right now he is happy to be alone. I dont know if we are getting back together or not. I dont want anyone else and I am old enough to know that I love him and dont want anyone else. He said that everyone says that until they find someone new but I dont necessarily think that is what happens. If you love someone then you know whether you might be interested in someone else. I really think it would be hard and I dont think I could ever find anyone I loved as much as him and I dont want to. I just really need advice on what I should do. Should I ride it out and not call or see him? Should I do the opposite? Should I wait for him to tell me he wants me back and not talk to him until then? I just needs advice desperately.
2006-10-09 17:30:17 · 6 answers · asked by Twilla97 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Distract yourself with other things you like to do. Sitting around waiting for him is just going to make things worse. Trying to date other guys will too because if you still love him that will just make you miss him more.
Take advantage of the extra time you have for self-improvement, go back to school, or do things you couldn't do while you were a couple, like going out with girlfriends. There must be something about being single you missed and now is your chance to enjoy it again. Make some new friends too and you never know what that might lead to.
You guys might end up back together after this break, but it sounds like he needs some space and some time alone and you have to respect that and try not to panic or freak out or do anything rash.
2006-10-09 17:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twilla,
I'd say you should let your "Beau" have some time to think things over. You can stay positive and get into activities to stay occupied.
Try not to worry. It's best if you look at things this way, just realize that if your relationship is "meant to be", your guy tell you! Just let him have his space.
YES, you need to "ride it out!" Don't call him------------ let HIM MISS YOU!!!!!!!!!
I know it will be hard since you said you're head over heels, and it's hard not to communicate, but it's the best step for now, since it's what he wants.
In the meantime, why don't you join groups, go out with your "Gal Pals", have dinner and go to movies, take up sewing...................... think of it as taking a vacation, but the main thing is, try not to think about your situation too much and just be out there enjoying yourself! It's better than sitting around dwelling!
Things for you will be clear in time...takes patience!
You will be ok. Keep the FAITH!
2006-10-09 17:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
annie's right...you're the only one who can figure this all out. if you really love your guy, give him the space and time that he needed... while so, try meeting ang hanging out w/ other people. you know, just to socilaize & "temporarily" get him out of your mind... i'm not telling you to look for someone to replace him, but what he said (that everyone says that until they found somene new) could be right...
and did he told you to wait for him?... and if he does, do you think he's really worth the wait? it's up to you to decide. but whatever you do, dont think and regret about the 'what ifs' and 'if onlys...'
good luck.
2006-10-09 17:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by DruNkStripPeR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dint worry Its happen for some time but every desparate thing behind its a joy only
2006-10-09 17:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by sanjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound so sweet ...i think your b/f just needs some time...leave him alone for a while....he obviously needs his space to think ...4 years is a long time ....try and not worry,, at least you will learn the truth about your love and life ....have patience....let him contact you...good luck
2006-10-09 17:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, this is only something YOU can figure out... is he worth waiting for ? or you willing to put ur life on hold until he figures his own out ?? are you willing to take the chance of waiting, for him to only decide that you are not what he wants ?? sorry, but only YOU know what you are willing to do for love !!! God bless
2006-10-09 17:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋