when my husband talks about them it makes my blood boil...why, because he is a moma's boy and there is nothing better then her cooking, her looks, her thoughts and sayings... its driving me crazyyy...other then that he thinks his sister is an "angel" when really all she does is nag like a devil over everything i do....what can i doooo, to try to like them and make him see the truth???
2006-10-09 17:18:32 · 8 answers · asked by ThatGirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, you're probably just jealous, so you shouldn't try to "make him see the truth" but instead focus your efforts on your own attitude and making yourself see the truth that they arent bad people.
But in the case that they actually are horrible people, do you really want to be the reason he stops talking to them/dislikes them? It may sound good now, but you wont like it once it happens. And what happens if/when there are kids involved? Do you want tension around grandma? Or no grandma at all?
That being said, I despise my husbands father's side of the family, but he doesn't talk to them either - but I love his mother and that side of the family.
2006-10-09 17:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by bumbleleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember the old saying, "blood is thicker than water."
Is he really comparing her cooking, her looks, her thoughts and sayings to you?? Its not all about you---his family is his family. Just make sure that when he is actually comparing these things to you...that he is and bite it in the bud.
So what if he thinks his sister is an "angel"--she may have been there for him when the chips were down, at different points in his life. If she is really, and I mean honestly, being a nag for no apparent reason---reason with her and tell her why she is, when she is doing it. And be calm about it. Don't just jump on her because you are having a bad day.
It sounds like you are young newly weds. Try not to sweat it so much---time will mellow everyone out.
2006-10-10 00:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally love my mother in law
my husband is an only child though
however
think about it this way
she did manage to mold and shape your perfect hubby wubby right
besides my sister always tells me something when im talking about how nuts my husband or kids or anyone is making me
she says
"you can only change yourself and how you feel about it"
you cant make him change his mind and turn against his mom (mines a mommas boy too...but dont ever say it man they get mad...truth hurts right)
anyway
you cant make him change and you cant make her change just do the best that you can to like her
try talking to her down on a deep level share a problem between you and your hubby with her ask her advice
shes known him all her life if you get on her good side
shell give you the secrets to make him do what you want
just kidding
well kinda....
like i said i love mine
shes always on my side
=)
2006-10-10 00:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by jes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you took her boy away and his mother has been replaced by you. Most boys are Mommy's boys and he is comparing you to his mother--which is unfair. Just try harder and show him you can do things his mother can't do Put IT on him every way but loose till he forgets about his mother and even his name. I find when you marry you must put your spouse first and your family and in-laws last. When you have kids they come first, spouse second and the in laws are out of the picture including your family. Divorce them and you and your spouse will have a happier life together...
2006-10-10 00:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have sister in law ? You can ask her if she hates her in laws , if yes ..... I am sure you ll get your answer.
Its depend on how you brought up by your parents . You are daughter to your parents and daughter in law to your husband's parents. If you love your parents there is no reason to hate your in laws.
Hate brings hate and love brings not only love unlimited happiness. Life is give and take . Dont ask before giving . Give first and see you will never ever ask this question why does daughter in laws hate her in laws..............
best of luck...........
2006-10-10 05:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by sun shine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get what your saying my inlaws before we got married were so nice now that we are married everything is different. they talk smak about me to my hubby and say **** to start fights it drives me crazy. my house is never clean enough and my kids don't act well enough its awful. my hubby was a mamma boy cause he never had a dad, it has gotten better but not to were I wish it was. we have been married 5yrs./
2006-10-10 00:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she don't accept that this is my family, and other thing is that if her mother could not guide her for her family matter after marriage
2006-10-10 00:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by Farhan Naqvi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because women are psychotic.
2006-10-10 00:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋