void. his mother did everything for him.how should i handle this issue ,because as soon as she died he started talking about marriage.help! he is 41 years old
2006-10-09 17:16:06 · 14 answers · asked by get greater later 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is grieving and trying to fill the emptiness. Just be there for him
2006-10-09 17:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend really wanted to be with you, don't you think he would have popped the question by now??
I agree with the person that said he's "trying to fill the void"...
Anybody with any background in psychology can tell you that biggest psychologial stressers are marriage, moving, having a child and death!
Tell your friend that you will be there for him for a very long time but you think that you would rather get married within much happier circumstances.... tell him to ask you again in six months and see if he does!!!
If he does then, and he's acting straight, then you know it's "true love" and not need!
Good Luck!
2006-10-10 00:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he say life can be short and decided it was time to settle down. But then again some people when they loose someone close like a mother (that did everything for him). He maybe looking for someone that can fill in the gap. And you happen to be around. This maybe not a rational decision at the moment for him. Just be there as a friend to him for now.
2006-10-10 00:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by VMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 41, his Mother did everything for him? Laundry, cooking, cleaning? Even if she hadn't died, you had a problem here. He needs to be a whole man before he can marry anyone.
Tell him so.
2006-10-10 00:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this is no time for him to make such a major decision; he is still in mourning! He should wait at least a year before making any major life decisions, or he will probably regret it. Don't move in with him either!
2006-10-10 00:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. May be you should tell him that the relationship shouldn't go to that level yet because he might be acting with his emotions. He might also be worried about being alone or even dying alone.
PS- I hope you are over the age of 30.
2006-10-10 00:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jp83 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with him for a heart to heart talk... tell him as gently as you can how you feel ... do you love this man ? if not, it would not be fair to urself or him to even consider a marriage... YOU are NOT his mother... he needs to hear the those words from you... a mother can not be replaced.... his age makes no difference in the scheme of things... a lose is a lose and he is hurting... mothers are special to the little boys who lose them... boys and moms are like cake and ice cream, they are just meant to be together... strange analogy, but so true.... so, sit down and talk to him about all this... he will be hurt, but you are not responsible for that, and it is unavoidable... just be as kind and gentle as you know how to be...... God bless
2006-10-10 00:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him no. In a nice way. Don't mention anything about being a mamma's boy if you want to keep the friendship.
It is time for him to grow up.
2006-10-10 00:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good time to make big decisions, He should wait at least 6 months. My condolences.
2006-10-10 00:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by LAUGHING MAGPIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Marriage is a life-time, he needs the most is friends, help him to open up his heart & mind.
2006-10-10 00:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by belgrave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋