if your wife or husban went out most of the time with friend drinking and macking and left you home to take care of your 3 boys that are 9 4 and 2 and you are 29 and she is 27.
2006-10-09 16:57:17 · 21 answers · asked by james t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for the past 3 months too.
2006-10-09 16:58:06 · update #1
Simply put.....whats good for one is good for the other.
2006-10-10 02:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by R W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would look at it from a big picture stand point. (Age has nothing to do with it)
When he is home, is he an attentive father and partner? If so, maybe you are making a big deal out of his wanting a little time to himself. Maybe you should arrange a schedule of taking turns, so you can have some time to yourself too.
If on the other hand, he avoids responsibility across the board, then you have a larger problem. Maybe you should have a daytime discussion about what you both expect out of home life for the next few years. These things wok in stages, and you are still at the 'young family' stage of life. That is demanding on time and energy, and some consideration must be made for the strain.
2006-10-09 17:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she stay out all night? Does she come home to drunk to know whats going on? You cant just leave if you have kids but, if she is only going out and not doing anything wrong put your foot down and go out sometimes to even if you just go have a pizza or bowling but everyone needs time to have a little fun. you too
2006-10-09 17:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out if there was a problem and then find a solution. Definitely let you partner know that there is a very bid problem and that this is not the middle ages and they need to attend to their family.
2006-10-09 17:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by chunkybunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can guarantee that my husband would do that one time & then I'd tell him "Do it again & you're out!" The kids need both parents there! Not to mention, when your mate is out, you're not in the best mood therefore your children don't get the best you have to offer! And why does she need to be out anyway? That's rediculous!
2006-10-09 17:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by tigerlily27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've HAD that done to me before, and it feels like CRAP!
This sort of thing is very inconsiderate of ANY guy!
Or a girl, if she pulled that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
For me, I got tired of feeling like I was getting left behind, SO, when I found out "my guy" was taking a younger girl places coz she didn't have a car, And on nights I was working, I found out "my guy" was taking my kids out for drives with that "Floozy!" My kids didn't like it!
(At the time they were younger but, KIDS KNOW!!!)
Anyhow, not long after a guy came into my life, he introduced himself to me and we got to be friends and he was "there" for me when the "LUG" was out with the youger chicky........................... well, after all the CRAP passed I'm still friends with "my friend!"
My advice, ask your Spouse if he/she wants out, and YOU find someone else!!!!!!!
2006-10-09 17:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a sit down for a serious conversation. something is awry here, communicate and get to the bottom of it or the kids will be taking the toll also.
2006-10-09 17:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make plans to go out and make her/him have to stay in with the kids for a change. or do fun stuff with the kids to allow the other parent see they are missing out on family time.
2006-10-09 17:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its been going on for three months now, im sure you've talked about it by now...this is clearly a problem. Maybe you need to go live a hotel for a couple weeks and see if they change their act.
2006-10-09 17:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick my days to go out with my friends too
2006-10-09 17:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband did that to me and then he had to go out of town for work and i went to one of his friends place for a bit and he totally freaked on me and now he is changing and isnt going out without me and he feels really bad for doing that to me good luck
2006-10-09 17:09:56 · answer #11 · answered by sdelight_192002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋