i have been wondering if i should file child support against my son's father. he isn't a deadbeat but i think he can do more. we had an agreement that if picks him up monday and bring him home thursday and pay child care which is only 50 a week i would be sastified. i found out my son hasn't been goin to day care and when he found out that i was goin to file for child support, he didn't show up to pick him up like he normally does he didn't call or nothing.his mom said i she knows where he is and is not goin to tell me i know he is trying to prove a point but wouldn't a real man do what he has to do regardless and when time to come to court explain whatever to the judge. why is it so easy for men to just stop doing for their children and get off so easily.
2006-10-09 16:56:57 · 11 answers · asked by waterfalls30060 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he normally picks my son up so that i can go to school and work and now i have to find someone to care for my son because of my son's father pride
2006-10-09 17:00:57 · update #1
It's sad that fathers/men punish us through our children... I went through it... there are laws that governs what two parents are to do when it comes to rearing a child... when a mother decides she needs to seek legal action... it's always the father that backs off... to get you to stop the legal proceedings... what else does he have to use against you... to get you to do as he wants... doing what he knows that will upset you... regardless of how it effects the child... Ignore him the best you can and proceed with what you need to do... if he wants to give up his time that he had with his child, let him... it is going to just look bad on him in court and you'll win in the long run... hang in there and let him, good luck!
2006-10-09 17:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are:
you
kid
kid's dad
why wasn't the child in daycare-was the father keeping him? if so-what is the big deal?
you seem to have a joint custody arrangement-why should he pay for ANYTHING except for when he has the child?
he takes care of the kids expenses when he has the kid ==you pay for kids expenses when the kid is with you
What more do you want?
It sounds to me like he HAS taken his responsibilities seriously.
He found out you were SUING HIM and he just doesn't want to get screwed so he didn't pick up the kid.
LEGALLY he doesn't have to-there is no court order in effect.
don't get greedy. the child support laws can be unfair and SOME women abuse them.
2006-10-09 17:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may NOT have been a dead beat, but he is now... YOU have to do what is right to make sure the child is getting all he deserves..pride has NO place when it comes to taking care of a childs needs.... you sound like a level headed mom and you also sound as if you have gone down his path long enough... to protect your sons' rights I regretfully say, go for legal..... the child deserves it....... a father that would run at the first sign of trouble would prob. keep running , every time things did not go his way, just like a spoiled brat....... God bless
2006-10-09 17:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 00:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by swett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cared about the child he would try to provide for him. He sounds immature for not picking up his son. You need to tell him that he is hurting his son when he does things like that and tell his mom she needs to butt out.
2006-10-09 17:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Twilla97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they just don't understand the concept of being a parent , they think it is a game or something .
You do whatever you need to , to make sure your child has a good life that he deserves !
2006-10-09 17:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shudent let him see the child if he isent responsible. One day your child could be in serious danger or something like that and it could be dangrous. call a child support center or something or even the police dept. not 911. If i was you, dont let him ahve coustdy of the kid. be a responible aprent(im sure u are, just saying)
best wishes!
2006-10-09 17:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by harry rav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely file for support. Men should realise that if they create something they should be there for the long run to look after it.
2006-10-09 17:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should because that money right there can help you pay for a babysitter and he help make your son but can't help raise it. Do what's best for you.
Good Luck
2006-10-09 17:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you let him see the child??
i cant really help you cause i dont have children yet.
but you're kid comes first.
do what will help you're son. then think about his feelings and such.
kid comes first.
2006-10-09 17:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋