My hubby and i agreed on that fact....im kind of less experienced.....i heard that there are many pll who do this thing....plz dont blame me...we kind of thought alot abt this...i need ideas....
2006-10-09 16:56:08 · 9 answers · asked by Lita fedrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-09 17:09:17 · update #1
I would really have a problem with an open relationship. I feel that you should be satisfied with the one you are with or you shouldn't be toghether. A relationship has pros and cons but it should be special. Everyone is entitled to there opinon on a relationship and I would be worried about him finding someone better or finding someone else myself. If you want an open relationship I'd be aware of problems so be careful. Watch for diseases and other risks of open relationships that could come up.
Good Luck
2006-10-09 17:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by robbie347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done that and found out a few things.
The desire for it is a sign that you're both turning away from your love for each other. When you were really in love, could you even think about such a thing?
Chances are that one or both of you are unconsciously doing this because you want out of your marriage. What happens if you get halfway down that road and change your mind? Do you have any idea how much that will hurt both of you?
Think about losing your husband. It really could happen. He could fall in love and leave you. He may say he won't, but feelings change when you mess with these things. How would you feel? Do you love him enough that the thought of that kills you? If not, then your love is in trouble, and that's what you need to work on, and an open marriage won't solve the problem, it will only make it worse.
Here's my bottom line wisdom, from painful experience: as much as you think you can control what you feel when you go through this, you can't. It won't work out the way you plan. Sex and love go together. And the love between partners needs to be exclusive. Can you deal with the thought of his loving someone else? Is it even possible to love someone besides your partner with that passion, that devotion, that we're all looking for in marriage? Of course not. Which is why it will turn into an either-or -- either you or the other woman (or in your case, either him or the other man).
I'm telling you from the bottom of my heart, don't do it. Stick together, love each other, be faithful, renew your love, work out your problems. This step will only make everything painful in the end. If you're going to separate, then separate, but don't do it this way -- too much heartache.
2006-10-09 17:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An open relationship?
I dont like it and if it were me, I wouldnt agree to it.
But the choice is always yours in the end.
Talk to many people who have tried it and find out their opinions.
2006-10-09 17:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by suzanne g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both love each other truly and honestly, then don't because it might sound great know, but later someone(either you or him) is going to get pissed-off for some reason or another and kiss your relationship good-bye, someone on either side is going to fall in love with another person, I mean think about it.
2006-10-09 17:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't you dare even consider such a thing. That is sinful with a capital "S". You are bound to your husband and only your husband and he is bound only to you in the sight of God. Don't you let that man put you in sin, you will burn in hell. This is not a good idea on so many levels. It is disrespectful to you, your marriage, and to God. The consiquences will be deadly... to your self-esteem, your marriage, your emotional well being, and your spirituality. Seek God, Pray, go to church. You need to find Jesus and put Him in the center of your marriage. God will not honor you or your marriage if you don't honor Him, and trust me this does not honor God. Don't do it. Seek God for your life.
2006-10-09 17:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by dineyb68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure that you are NOT moving your relationship with your husband on to this level if it is not something you want your self. ( as in you are going along with it to please him)
from my understanding - an ''open relationship'' is where you are both free to still " date" others - with or without you giving full details to your partner.
also think carefully about whether you are both going to be comfortable with the other party having a sexual relationship with a 3rd person
there are many different ""dating"" sites on-line that do cater to these needs.
just TAKE CARE & be true to yourself.
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2006-10-09 17:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL just find the people and get started. DONT be disappointed if your husban runs a way with the other woman. that happen to my sister best friend.
2006-10-09 16:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an excellent relationship then it might work. If you have a problematic relationship then you are taking a big chance.
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2006-10-09 17:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any i have known that have tried that.......each ended very badly
but, that doesnt mean yours will.
2006-10-09 17:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by halieysmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋