I think you are worrying to much . Go back out there , learn from your past mistakes and get on with life . Don't spend so much energy on the small stuff !
2006-10-09 16:52:34
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answered by Geedebb 6
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If you truly accept responsibility for whatever happened, your family member was only stating what was true, but it may have been insensitive to say it the way it was said and the wrong time to say it. I don't think it was right to outright say you deserved what you got if you owned up to it, but what's done is done. You owned up to it, you know what happened and that's all that matters. As much as it hurt, your family member was only trying to get you to see something you already realized.
Instead of letting it break my heart, I would have let this family member know that I own up to my mistake and it didn't need to be discussed the way it had been (the way it offended or hurt you). Let them know you own it, you get it and it's time to move on and find another job so that you can show that you've learned from your mistakes.
Luck to you.
2006-10-10 00:02:35
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answered by ♥i KnwUc It♥ 2
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Sometimes it's hard to take things like that but it spurs you on and causes you to make necessary changes. I would rather some one be honest with me then stroke my back when I'm wrong. Think about it maybe she see more potential in you then you appear to be putting out! In conclusion, sometimes love of a family member hurts. Good luck on the job hunt, learn from the past and look to the future.
2006-10-09 23:57:28
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answered by spirit filled 3
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I don't know the history & why your family said this to you but maybe they felt they could be honest with you. I would not put too much energy into it. Find a new job and make the best of it. If it continues to bother you, ask your family member about it. Honesty is the best policy. Hope it works out.
2006-10-09 23:51:22
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answered by Forever 6
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I think your family member was right to say that because you ask a question and It's a good thing you did chose them because you know all they're going to do is tell you the truth anyway wither it's right or wrong. But I hope you do find you a job.
Good Luck
2006-10-09 23:57:13
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answered by Scooby_doo06 3
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I can't answer the question of whether or not they were sincere in what they said, but keep in mind they could have let that slip for lack of a better comment on the situation...sometimes when you can't think of the right thing, in this case something supportive, you say the wrong thing, he/she could feel bad about having said that, ask them what they think you should do to make things different
2006-10-09 23:59:29
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answered by Hunter D 1
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I am assuming the remark came from a parent... parents like to jab there kids cause they think that's what will motivate them to not make further mistake... which is wrong... all the way around.
Regardless... if you made a mistake during your employment... you could still use some encouragement to try to not to make the same mistake... being crude and rude has never worked with my kids and I don't want to send them off with hurt or bad feeling...
I rather encourage them to see the mistake that they made and assure them they can do better... and to just forget it and go on to the next job and try to do better... and the same goes to you.
Put it behind you and go on... mistakes have a purpose and we learn from them... Good Luck!!!
2006-10-09 23:59:15
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answered by Sandy 6
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Of course that is not the right thing to say! Regardless of the circumstances, a comment like that just is not necessary and is not at all supportive in any way.
Good luck finding a new job!
2006-10-09 23:49:46
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answered by sexy_lil_butterfly 2
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Fate and destiny will take its course whether you like it or not...believe it or not...there is more truth to "what comes around goes around" than you relize....the more it hurts to hear it...the more truth there was to it...only you can know this...respect the one who said this as it wasnt as much a personal and direct blow, but an eye opener...telling you to evaluate what has came out of this situation and use what you learn from it... to become a better person / employee. you can always suck up your pride and make it right..."you will have to cross all the bridges you burn on your way home".
2006-10-09 23:59:20
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answered by ca_ruff 2
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Family is a very important thing. It is your opinion against hers/his whether she/he should have said that. But if it broke your heart, you need to tell the person.
When I was younger, my sisters used to call me spoiled. I can laugh about it now but at the time, it really hurt me. I couldn't help how my parents treated me. So I went to the source of the problem---I confronted my sisters and they realized that their teasing was hurting the person that they loved.
Good luck...and really, good luck finding a new job. I never find that exciting. =)
2006-10-09 23:53:00
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answered by suzanne g 2
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The only way for your friends comment to be true is if you believe in what he/she said. If you don't believe in the comment then it isn't true. I find the comment to be harsh and unless the family member was trying to show you a life lesson or protecting you in some weird way, all in all the comment was wrong.
2006-10-09 23:52:10
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answered by KindomCome 2
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