How can a person be more assertive?

Question

instead of passive or aggresive or passive-aggressive?

Answer 1

Standing up for your rights and not being taken advantage of is one definition of being assertive.
It means communicating what you really want in a clear fashion, respecting your own rights and feelings and the rights and feelings of others.
Assertion is an honest and appropriate expression of one's feelings, opinions, and needs.

Being aggressive means standing up for yourself in ways that violate the rights of others.
Aggressive behavior is typically punishing, hostile, blaming, and demanding. It can involve threats, name-calling, and even actual physical contact. It can also involve sarcasm, catty comments, gossip and "slips of the tongue."

Sure there r ways to go on chking ur ways...Develop a value and belief system which allows you to assert yourself.
This is the hardest part. It means giving yourself permission to be angry, to say "No," to ask for help, to make mistakes.
Maintain direct eye contact; keep your posture open and relaxed; be sure your facial expression agrees with the message; keep a level, well-modulated tone of voice; select an appropriate time to be assertive.

In the beginning, don't try changing your behavior in loaded or difficult situations.
Practice first in the least risky ones.You can practice on your friends and family. But tell them what you are doing first! Enlist their help; ask for feedback on how you're doing. In the long run, communicating honestly can help your relationships.

Here are two out of the many on-line information sources on assertiveness.
University of Illinois at Urbana-Champagne:

www.couns.uiuc.edu/Brochures/assertiv.htm/

State University of New York at Buffalo:
http://ub-counseling.buffalo.edu/assertiveness.shtml/.

Answer 2

The best way is to exercise.

You can start by listing situations where you think you should be more assertive. Then, try to find more appropriate responses like specific behaviours or answers you could give to reflect you are centered.

Basing yourself on the previous step, you can role play with someone you know or with yourself in the mirror.

Of course, don't miss out on the last step, which is to force yourself to put it in real life practise.

Just be careful to be respectful of others if you want others to respect you.

Answer 3

Stop thinking you can please everyone and start knowing that it is OK to put your self first in certain situations. And tell your self you can do what ever you set your mind to as long as you follow through with it and put effort into it. And realize we are never ever perfect in all that we do. We are human.... We make mistakes which by the way we learn from those mistakes and grow from them... Turn everything into a positive! It is there just search for it...

Answer 4

There are many techniques to achieve this, one is to see in your mind the other person as a very young person...(whist thinking to yourself this poor child needs my help) then act accordingly,in the case of uniforms (cops etc) see them in there under pants (keep this image in your mind while talking to them )or listening to them ,these are only short term "of the shelve" techniques to truly be more assertive one must restructure ones thinking ....whole new ball game .....

Answer 5

Have confidence in yourself. Know that you are best you can be and do not take crap from anybody. First of all treat everyone the way you want to be treated. In other words do not become a**hole. Any one can do that, it takes no talent.

Answer 6

i think of you are able to,at artwork i've got in no way extremely been useful,yet in simple terms even interior the final couple of months i've got began to talk my suggestions,while I in no way used to. in spite of if it did take something extremely undesirable to take place for me to be like it although. There comes a time which you will not take it anymore,each and every of the crap & you in simple terms ought to look out for selection one.

Answer 7

There is a really good book "When I say no I feel guilty". It has a lot of great tips. Check it out.