I ended a friendship of about thirty-five or so years....the friend started to bad mouth me in front of others, and I let that go on for a long time, thinking maybe she didn't mean it the way that she said it,and she also tried to go after some of the men I was involved with...and yet, I still "rationalized" this as "it was okay, because women are "made" like this...was I totally mixed up?
She really hurt me, and Yes, I did tell her, but, her atitiude is,and more than likely still is"That she didn't do anything wrong!" What do you all think?
SHe also didn't like me to be with other friends of mine...and tried to "accidently " show up...which at times, was "stalking" me!
What 's wrong with her?!!!
2006-10-09 16:31:03 · 7 answers · asked by smilingflowergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thirtyfive years is a very long time to be friends with someone just to end the friendship. I mean, that many years someone is more like family. Is there any way you could have a talk with her, tell her you care about her, that your friendship has been part of your life for over half your life & you don't want to lose her, but she's going to have to stop disrespecting you.
2006-10-09 16:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) she is very insecure with herself
2) she is very dependant on you
with out you, she has no one to hurt, stalk, bad mouth, etc. She knew that when she did these things, you wouldn't do anything drastic, so she continued to do these things to make herself feel better. you were being weak by giving her chance after chance. how long will it be before she comes back into your life??
She is like a leech.. or whatever those bugs are that suck on you.. she sucks on you for many reasons.. cause she knew she could take advantage of you and you wouldn't do anything about it. she probably didn't like you hanging out with other people because it's probably clear to the outside world how bad of a person she is.
she has been hurting you for 35 years, I think it's time to move on with your life, become independant from her, and start making yourself as happy as you can. that's what life is all about. there's no reason to allow her back in your life.
2006-10-09 16:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by keep it real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well with her just showing up when you were with others. That was just cause she wanted you to be in her back burner friend. Just be there when she needed you. And only have her as a friend. Their the worst kind i had one too. And it was a 16 yr friendship. And i had to just stop talking with her and going out her,
2006-10-09 16:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Debby G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your friend has a problem she can't decide for you and i don't believe you should be talked to in a bad way . I really don't believe she is your friend a true friend would not be trying to get involved with her friend's men that is nasty . I think you shoildn't talk to her she seems like she is bad news for you you deserve a better friend iand i know it is kind of hard for you
2006-10-09 16:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by rayray17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Currently have a friend who is afraid of me doing anything with other friends without her
Maybe she's bored/lonely?
2006-10-09 16:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person involves himself in your personnel matters more than required he/she is not a good close friend.
2006-10-09 16:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by deepak57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if she is jealous! you wants to be in your shoes, forget her, get a real true friend!!
2006-10-09 16:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋