we have ben bestfriends for 15yrs i have told her a yr after we met that i have more than friendship feelings in my heart for her she said she does'nt want to hear it we can only be friends so i respected that althou it was hard all these yrs when we met it was magical and i know she felt the same she was in a bad marriage then I was always there for her listening to her problems,giving her moneyect..she has told me iam more like a husband than he she has 4 kids at the time now in there 20s i was in&out of relaships but this last yr we have gotten realclose again like it was meant to happen shes ben separated fr the husband for yrs now we spend a lot of time together daily we get along so well and happy when together she says certain lv songs are our songs and that she wants to date other men but does 'nt want to have to get to know someone else again after her husband but she wants effection and intimacy when we dance she starrs with inviting eyes closer we get the hotter we both get
2006-10-09 16:05:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
she has given me mix signals we came back to my place and she wanted to dance and kept teasing me with the bottle of wine and wanting to boot up play fight i just wanted to kiss her but regret not doing it she kept feeding me chees crackers ect..i feel one minit she wants me the next she don't well i have to move out of state in 3 weeks to be near my 66yr old mother she doe'nt want me to move and i don't want too but i have too i only have one mom and one sister my mom is disabled we have never been 8 hours apart we always lived in the same town she needs to stay here near her 4 kids and grandkids and she just got a job latley shes ben avoiding me we use to send IMs too but now thats ben less well the last one she asked again why do you have to move I don't know if a long distance relationship will work it did'nt for her and her husband well i thought we just had a friendship I think shes in deneil about her feelings for me i love her and it hurts having to leave her thanks
2006-10-09 16:23:50 · update #1
Hope you can get your head of of the clouds long enough for bluntness.
You are being used by a married woman to bridge the gap between her present husband "who just doesn't understand her" and her next one, who will be the last ones identical twin. If this was a man, would you put up with this?
Move on with your life, you've wasted enough time.
2006-10-09 16:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know unless you press the question, but whatever the answer I don't see any option except to accept it, and go on your way, seperately (so you don't torment yourself), or as just friends (which is no small thing), or together. If she's been seperated for years, and known other fellows she should surely know her own mind by now, ready to take responsibility for her life and relationships. There are times in life when a certain amount of ruthlessness is vital, however much it may hurt. Been there.
2006-10-09 23:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being in a real relationship; my advice is all about being included in every aspect. Come correct or don't come at all. Sorry but it sounds like you are a fall back; or security blanket when times get rough. It also appears that you are a very caring person. It would be heaven; to find your match. Then and only then would you have complete love, respect, loyalty, honor and open conversation on so many levels of intimacy. Don't sell yourself short; or you will regret it for life.
2006-10-09 23:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her GO FOR IT! if it will be a prblem then just wait and ee how things unfold!
2006-10-10 00:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by maddog1968 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, be her friend. Most of all, be your own friend. She won't/can't commit to you, not now, maybe never. Be her friend, and be your own best friend.
2006-10-09 23:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you sitll love her yes or no
2006-10-09 23:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by diamondcole25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋