I never understood the idea of having people celebrate at your funeral... celebrating your life, telling jokes, whatever... I want everyone to be crying and really miserable. I would be crying and miserable if any of my friends or ESPECIALLY by spouse died. I want to be cried for and missed. I'd like my spouse to be depressed for a while, maybe almost die of heartbreak, but hang in there for the kids and go on. I would never want to be forgotten. His soul is tied to mine and so a part of him will die when I die. I don't want him to remarry probably, because he could never be as happy as he was with me, so why bother settling for something mediocre?
Part of me is totally kidding, but another part thinks I am serious. I would want him to be happy again though, genuinely I would want that and I would want him to be strong for the kids (if there were any). If I had to put a time limit on it, I'd say that he should be first concerned with raising the kids and then when they are all out of the house he can think about dating maybe, only if it would really make him happy. This should at least be 5-10 years after I die.
2006-10-09 16:23:15
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answered by Stephanie S 6
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My husband and I discuss this often, and I even teasingly point out women to him. I would certainly want him to remarry, as he would be lonely without a wife. I wouldn't want him to wait 5 years either. That is too long for my children to remain motherless. Maybe a year or so to get past the grieving.
2006-10-09 16:34:01
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answered by burpolicious 2
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there are maximum of differences in those that the question is honestly unanswerable. at the same time as some human beings would desire to remarry quickly, others would desire to attend or in all threat by no potential remarry. yet i might propose that widows and widowers no longer enable society dictate what to do ---- use warning yet carry on with your heart --- existence is basically too short to stay unhappy for long classes.
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answered by bustamante 4
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Most definitely. My spouse would have every right to remarry and try to be happy again. I wouldn't want him to be lonely for the rest of his life. I think it would be appropriate if he waited at least two years.
2006-10-09 16:03:23
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answered by pink79 1
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Of course I would want him to remarry especially if we had kids only because he wouldn't raise them as a single parent. I wouldn't put a time limit only because people have their own grieving process. When ever he is ready to get married again, as long as he keeps my memory alive some how for the kids sake.
2006-10-09 16:04:23
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answered by applepie 3
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I agree with you. You love your spouse so much and you don't want them lonely, but a part of you still wants to be #1. I have been married a long time and my husband and I have talked about this and he feels the same way. Human nature, I think. As far as time period of remarriage, I haven't a clue. I wouldn't want them to get married the next day! LOL ;-)
2006-10-09 16:28:32
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answered by Anonymous
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that's a very good question.my husband and i have talked about this and he says if he goes before i do that it is OK for me to remarry but i don't think i could.as for the way i feel about it i am not sure i guess it depends on if our children were raised and out of the house.i don't want another woman raising our kids.i would hope that if he did he would make sure she was nice ,fair, and loving to our kids.and as for the waiting part,i would hope so ,because if he didn't i would think he didn't care about me.but of course i wouldn't know any difference,I'm dead
2006-10-09 16:16:38
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answered by JENNIFER D 2
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Since my husbands not the type who would be happy alone I'd have to say yes. I'd hope he'd give it enough time to make sure he was marrying her for the right reasons not just out of loneliness alone.
2006-10-09 17:07:43
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answered by ? 5
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If I'm dead then I'm out of the picture as completely as I can be. Whether she remembers me fondly or not may be important to her or the kids, but my feelings would be necessarily nonexistent. I might have advice to give her now in the event of my death, but it would be for the benefit of her or the kids and would have NOTHING to do with jealousy on my part as I could not possibly have any at all.
2006-10-09 16:10:36
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answered by Nick â? 5
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Yes , but I'd want him to give himself the time to heal from my death .....He is a great man . But he would be very easily conned. I guess I'd say , like you , 5 years . And the jealous side of me , like you, wouldn't want to think of him being with anyone else . The reasonable side of me would want him to not be alone .
2006-10-09 16:01:46
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answered by jacks_girl618 2
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