2006-10-09 15:44:40 · 16 answers · asked by DeborahUlloa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, but he may be guilty of something...Yes that is a fact...could be anything such as maybe spending too much money without your knowledge, sneaking a peek at another women, maybe a thought, but one thing for sure you need to shut him down on that subject unless you are giving him reason to think that you are cheating...Just ask him if he is guilty of something when he ask if you are cheating on him....The person who mentions it first is usually the one guilty....
2006-10-09 16:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, a woman who's been married and raising a family for 20 years just finds out her husband is a cheater (because cheaters are incredibly prolific liars, to both the other woman and the wife) and overnight she becomes a total drama junkie, a glutton for punishment and loves the pain! You think? Give us a break. Naive, maybe. Just as naive as the side pork who believes that she is the love of this guy's life and will hang on for dear life to the scraps he throws her. Naive because she, the wife, believes her husband of decades when he tells her he loves her and is remorseful? Naive because she took vows and believed that her husband who was standing there beside her, took the same? Naive, maybe. Betrayed, absolutely. Not every man or woman will cheat again. Sometimes when they hit the wall (and usually yes, that may take getting caught) they lose the respect of family, children, coworkers and friends. Sometimes they even lose their jobs. We've seen this happen over and over in the news lately. Sometimes they don't actually "get" it until they are caught and are faced with the idiocy of their actions and the pain they have caused. Sure, many wait a bit and sneak back out there looking for some cheap thrills again. They fix mistakes and get more sinister, cover their tracks better and warn their pork to keep the down-low. Sometimes. It's not cut and dried. You're making judgments on women's decisions because you're sitting there living vicariously through a "friend" that obviously has about as much moral fiber as a peanut. Until you've walked the walk and lived through the devastation and the aftermath from a betrayed spouse's experience you are not going to understand his or her reactions to the situation any more than I can understand why a woman would let herself be some man's dirty little secret. *****
2016-03-28 03:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
Man I hate when people think this way, and I know you aren't saying this, but it's such a popular thing these days.
You have one person in a relationship that's a shady, scheming type that's out cohorting around with the opposite sex, flirting with the opposite sex while in a relationship. Then the other person finds out about it, asks them what's going on and then the one that's 'cheating' spins it around and starts accusing the other person of cheating! What the heck!
Yes, sometimes that is true, but people throw that around like it's law or something. The idiots that like to think the world is black and white....I got news for you. It's not! People DO have feelings and sometimes if you genuinely think something's wrong you have every right to ask your 'mate' about it without it being thrown back in your face as an accusation!
I dated some dumbass several months ago that use to pull this 5 yr old crap, and it did nothing but cause problems and chip away at our relationship.
Wake up people and use your head and while your at it...open up your heart and use that once in a while too.
2006-10-09 15:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. In some cases, the guy has been cheated on in the past and therefore has trust issues. Other times, he's just insecure. Of course there are those who accuse their wives of cheating because they are cheating themselves but this is not the case with all of them.
2006-10-09 15:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean his wife is cheating. It means his wife just maybe insecure with the relationship. Maybe the man needs to pay more attention to his wife.
2006-10-09 15:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not 100% no, but deflecting guilt or blame is a common trait among cheaters. If he can believe you are cheating, it justifies him cheating.
I would dig deeper into detailed cell phone bills and email accounts, my wife cheated, and it's amazing how they justify it to themselves.
The funny thing is, they make you feel guilty and you haven't cheated.
2006-10-09 15:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope i think that it means that he is jealious and you should run fast and get away. It will not work cause he will drive you insane with the thoughts and with time it will destroy what you have. I could mean that he is cheating but my guess he is not.
2006-10-09 15:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Karen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No It means he has been cheated on before by a woman! Remember you learn thru experience .....Its how humans stay alive.
2006-10-09 15:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just very insecure with his self and his manhood maybe you could give him more attention and support him in a more positive way.
2006-10-09 16:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by teri2whit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of times yes or maybe he thinks u r so beautifull and maybe hes afraid that u will find someone els that will treat u better
2006-10-09 16:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋