been married for 7 years im not happy anymore and he wants to change now that he knows i have a place of my own.
2006-10-09 15:30:16 · 12 answers · asked by sparks7530 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a lawyer. Hopefully, no kids are involved.
2006-10-09 15:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave a 7 year marriage by getting a place of your own and living your own life. What else is there to know?
I think you're asking, how do you convince your husband that it's final.
This is one of those cases where you have to be cruel to be kind.
Every time you smile at him, say something nice to him, meet him for a meal or coffee, he will read these as hopeful signs: maybe you're softening towards him, maybe he has a chance, etc. So you must be careful not to be even a little bit encouraging. If you haven't already bluntly told him that it's definitely over and you're never coming back, then you HAVE to do that. Spell it out to him. It sounds harsh, but until you do that he will hope - and letting him hope, when he has no chance, is much, much more cruel than being honest. Believe me, I've been on the receiving end!
Go out on some dates and let him know about it (don't brag about them, just mention them in conversation like you would to any friend).
2006-10-09 22:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry not going to help leave but will encourage you to give this major thought. A marriage is not always fun that's why they say for better or worse. Hard times are usually hard but there's often a payoff if you can sustain. Talk to each other not just about the problems but weigh them against the good also. Good luck! but if all else fails there is the door. you are married there had to be love... hopefully
2006-10-09 22:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Guitarpix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the decision to leave is a tough one...it may cause alot of problems but you must know that you need to realize that you will be on your own and if you have invested time and money in a relationship and your heart, it can take a toll. Its stressful whether you are ready to leave or not...Do you have children?. IF you do, then they might be asking for the other parent in the process ....If you dont, its easier and quicker to leave...is there any chance for things to be worked out ?...counseling won't work?...Is it really over ?...IF you answer yes, then maybe its for the best...and you have your own place...it will be rough but you will get through it ....Good Luck...may a thousand angels watch over you and keep you safe....
2006-10-09 22:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a place of your own then it's done,really.If you don't love him anymore and things will not change then you need to get a divorce.Hopefully you guys will stay friends cause you two have been through some things together and that should'nt go to waste.After all,you guys were married.
2006-10-09 22:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by nick j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duuuuude... 7 years... you need to step away for a second... tell him how you feel and communicate with him... Go on vacation (with friends or by yourself)... go to counceling... it takes 2 to tango...but try hard... write out your thoughts, and try to make it work...really try...Speak to him..
A divorce is huge...mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally you will be tapped out for months maybe years... Remember why you married him...
It may sound a lot easier to say than to do...(on my part) but the thought of it is very sad...give it a go...
2006-10-09 22:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Duuuude no waaaay! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was married 10 years and i made it if you are unhappy and you know that your not going to be happy what do you have to loss
2006-10-09 22:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by smrhere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not happy then your not happy just get the lawyer and serve him the papers don`t let him sucker you my ex wife suckered me i was not happy and left but i let her talk me into coming back it cost me more than i care to say on here she didn`t change and neither will he.
2006-10-09 22:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, you already took a huge step. Get a lawyer and be done with it.
2006-10-09 22:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns, if you are really done with this relationship,lastly be sure to take all safety precautions
2006-10-09 22:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by snoutcounter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋