I had anal sex for the first time yesterday afternoon. It only lasted not even a minute b/c it hurt so bad for me. Last night and most of today I had no pain, but a few hours ago I went to the bathroom and pooped and had a small amount of blood on the toilet paper and now have feel some light pain as if I am constipated...Does anyone have an idea what this might be? Thanks so much...
2006-10-09 15:06:16 · 16 answers · asked by Angeleyes 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
look sweetie, its totally normal to feel pain and spot after having anal sex...especially if it was your first time... look my advice to you is if you're going to do it again just make sure you use lubricant (water based are the best)...its the best thing to use so it goes in easier with little or no pain so you can actually enjoy the expirience not cry over it.... best wishes....
2006-10-09 15:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by noey2010 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the tissue gets irritated-it's very thin and fragile. It is quite normal to have a little bit of blood and also to feel like you still have something that needs to come out. Get some tucks pads and keep some preparation H handy. For the future, I would suggest (if your going to continue) that you get a medium size smooth vibrator and have your partner lube that up and use that as foreplay to "loosen" you up prior to entering you. The first few times of anal sex aren't all that great (at least for women!), but using this method makes the whole experience much better!
2006-10-10 00:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this a non-judgmental answer. The anus was designed to have things come out—not go in. The rectal area is more fragile than the vaginal walls. There is a higher risk of injury with anal penetration. There is a higher risk of STD's because of the higher potential for tissue ripping and bleeding. Use a lubricant.
Do not have anal intercourse and then vaginal because of the risk of infection and PID (pelvic inflammatory disease) which can cause infertility. Vaginal and then anal is less risky. "Always honor the vagina."
If your bleeding and pain continue seek medical evaluation.
2006-10-09 22:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are speaking of is the number one reason a condom should be used. You have experienced tearing inside of yourself - that part of your body is not designed for that type of activity. Maybe you did not use enough lube. You will heal though, but be careful in the future. If you are bleeding a little bit there, bad bacteria can get into your blood stream. Also, your partner might not have been gentle with you, or might have been too big for you.
2006-10-09 22:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Fun and Games 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be relaxed to have anal sex, otherwise it hurts. Do what you are comfortable with. I would say if blood continues though to get checked out. In rare cases the wall between your 1st and second area could be torn.
2006-10-09 22:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by girlygirlrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely the reason it was painful, was because your rectum was being stretched. Due to this there was tissue damage and it was made worse by defecating. You may want to try a stool softener for a couple of days until things heal up.
2006-10-09 22:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by mr.answerman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jj gave you bad advice. Never use vasilene for a sexual lubricant. Use water-based lubes only, like KY or astroglide. Have your partner buy them if he wants to continue having anal sex. If he won't get them, tell him no more back door jollies.
Oh, and have him wear a condom. Urinary tract infections are no fun, and he can pass it to you via vaginal sex, too.
2006-10-09 22:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three words to help you - lube, lube, lube. Try astroglide or water based lubricants and a lubricated condom. Relax and have him go very slowly, although it doesn't sound like he has much staying power. Probably take a number of times before your "broke in",
2006-10-10 09:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be fine you usually bleed the first time or so but if you continue too have anal sex have your partner wse some kind of lubrication , ky-jelly --or vasoline works well or just plaine old spit , have fun ,
2006-10-09 22:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it hurts why do you do it. I hope your partner wears a condom! If you like doing it, use lots of lubricant!
2006-10-09 23:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋