we've been together for 2 yrs & he was so sweet & accomodating for such a long time & now we just seem to be co-existing in the same house although he still tells me he loves me I just dont FEEL it from him... does anyone else know what I mean?
2006-10-09 15:05:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, you shouldn't if you still love him. Constant togetherness brings about too much familiarity between two persons in love. It's a common feeling. More so between you and your boyfriend who have been living together for two years now, as you said.
All you need is a little change in what you two do to keep your romance alive and burning like flame. Perhaps, the things you do together have become very monotonous that they don't interest you anymore. Think of things or activities that you have not been doing which interest you a lot and ask him to do those things with you. It's better if you could think of things to do that both of you are interested in.
What you are experiencing with him right now will also be true when you two decide to get married. In long time marriages, the husbands and the wives seem to treat each other not as lovers anymore but as plain housemates, sometimes even as brothers and sisters. In these cases, the husbands and the wives might have forgotten that marriage should not cut short the fun and excitement that the couples did before they got married.
Don't worry. For as long as you love each other, you should continue living together but add more fun and enthusiasm to your relationship by doing varied things that will make your union exciting and worth keeping,,, forever. All the best.
2006-10-09 15:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been there before you leave him, tell him. Sometimes men need a wakeup call. Tell him what you want, and how you want the relationship to work. I made " date nights" at least once a month, we dress up, go to a moive,dinner or such and spend time together. Also it can get better, we did and it was worth the effort.
2006-10-09 22:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get that way w/my husband sometimes he works all the time and doesnt get to see family or friends so when he is off just wants to relax which is understandable.I am a busy body I like doing stuff mainly w/ my kids because theres knowone else here. So yes I feel that way sometimes it feels like theres nothing left but I know there is. But if you dont feel the love from him maybe you should look for someone else. Life is to short to be miserabe.
2006-10-09 22:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Cupidgirl.
Well if your relationship seems dull, and you don't feel the same relationship as when you met him, something is wrong.
Im not going to tell you what you need to do, because its your life, and its your decision, but i do recommend that you at least try some methods to see if you can save a good relationship.
Try spicying up the relationship, be more romantic, ask him to be more romantic for you, maybe he needs a good wakeup call to get him more into how he was when he met you!
Anyways, its all up to you, do you want this relationship? Did you like it when he first met you?
Goodluck!
- Dr.Wuv
2006-10-09 22:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy for you to just get up and leave. This is or was a loving relationship at one point and you honestly have to think to yourself if it is going anywhere from this point on. It is not fair to this guy. He may be just a guy, but he also wants something in life, if your not feeling it with him anymore don't keep him around just because you don't know what to do. If he says he loves you then he loves you. It is you that doesn't know your true feelings, and if you do know your true feelings you would have faith in his words and emotions. Do you love this man?
2006-10-09 22:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an honest conversation with him about it. Maybe he just got bored with the old flattery and needs some new ideas. Don't throw away two years of love.
2006-10-09 22:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS A TOUGH THING AFTER 2 YEARS I KNOW CAUSE I JUST GOT OUT OF A 3 YEAR RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU STILL CARE FOR HIM TRY NEW THING'S TO IMPROVE THE RELATIONSHIP IF NOT THAN YES YOU SHOULD PROB LEAVE HIM BUT REMAIN HIS FRIEND IF HE IS NICE TO YOU CAUSE NICE PEOPLE ARE HARD TO FIND THESE DAY'S.....
2006-10-09 22:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Nathann S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what feels right. However, men that are honorable and dedicated are hard to find. If you dump him, make sure you realize what you would be leaving before you do.
2006-10-09 22:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by speedysundevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do people think relationships are smooth all through? there ups and downs. if you feel you have had enough, pls leave him.
2006-10-09 22:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by naa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, if u have to go to yahoo answers to ask strangers, u dont want him then.
2006-10-09 22:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by *S* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋