the dad and i have been together for a year and a half... we started dating when he was 17 and i was 14.. my parents liked him at first and then some personal stuff happened and then they were not allowing me to see him anymore... i snuck for months behind their backs to see him because i loved him... just a couple weeks ago we got caught together and my mom desided to just give up and let me see him... and now i find out im pregnant!!! idk how to tell them and im scared he will go to jail for s. rape because im under age... what do i do????
2006-10-09 14:50:29 · 38 answers · asked by kayla 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i do want to keep the baby by the way... and please.. if all your going to tell me is "how stupid i am" just... keep your comment to yourself.. i already know i made a mistake.. i am not looking for more ppl to yell at me im looking for some help ok?
2006-10-09 15:57:37 · update #1
Well in a few months it's going to be pretty obvious so you might as well tell them.
And yes he could go to jail, and as a minimum should be prosecuted.
If your parents knew you were having sex they should be prosecuted as well.
2006-10-09 14:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your parents, mom first. All hell may break loose OR it may be a very solum first few minutes. Either way, just do it and ask for their help. They WILL help you. They may be hurt, be sad...but they will take care of you.
Don't abort. I don't think the baby's grandparents would go along with that, especially if they have other grandkids. You could always adopt the baby out, but, again, the grandparents will probably object to that.
DO NOT go to some back street abortion clinic IF you decide to abort. Do keep in mind, tho, that IF you abort, you will be killing a human that could be a great person when it grows up. Also, you will suffer the rest of your life if you abort. When you have other kids, you will KNOW that there is one more and you will wish it was there for those Christmas Holidays and school functions.
You know what to do. Just do it. Good luck. Pops
2006-10-09 15:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, of course they are going to be upset at the beginning. Be honest with them and let them know that you want to keep the baby and that you are going to need their help... everything will work out and everyone will love the baby when he or she is born. Your parents are going to be upset because they are very concerned about your future and your ability to raise a child considering you are almost a child yourself, but don't forget that you will need their help and a lot of it when the child is born.
As far as the boyfriend, make sure you have him talk to your parents as well and if they see that he really is a nice guy and wants to be there for the baby, then he wont go to jail.
2006-10-10 01:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 03:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what this is always a hard one, but I got pregnant at 16 and I was really scared to tell my parents too but I did not deal with the whole over 18 stat. rape thing but, hopefully you and your mom are at least close where you feel like you can tell her straight up, if you say "Mom I have to talk to you about something" she will know right away and you wont even have to say anything...seriously it works. Moms know these things.. I went through the same thing when i was younger with the boyfriend who my parents hated. She got over it after I told her that we were going to be together no matter what. I am so glad I went through with the pregnancy, my daughter is everything to me and I would not give her up for the world. Good Luck hun...
2006-10-09 14:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by **Starmomma** 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must tell your parents about your problem. Primo: they alone can somewhat help you,Secundo: they may be mad, yell against you but they will never let you down, Tertio: they will find out anyway if you don't tell them about it.
You put the verb "loved" in past tense which seems to mean you once loved the boy and now don't. I hope you still do and that he loves you also. If things are so, you will be stronger to pass the crisis which will occur. But don't despair: I've personnaly known several people who have had the same problem as you and who have seen through it.
I sincerely hope you will get successfully out of the crisis: just don't you kill your baby!
2006-10-09 15:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by ana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just summon up the courage to tell your parents. You can tell them together or if it's easier tell your mom or your dad alone. No matter how they react, they will get over it. You are their child and they love you unconditionally. They will love your baby too. Even if they are upset now (whether they are angry or silent), they WILL get over it. The sooner you tell them, the sooner you can start your prenatal care and begin planning for your future whether you keep your baby or not.
I don't think you will have to worry about your boyfriend. Your parents may not like him, but he is now the father of their grandchild so they will learn to accept him too.
Good Luck and God Bless. Remember, there are no accidents, everything happens for a reason.
2006-10-09 17:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by LasVegasMomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gawwd. You need to sit your mother down in a quiet, serious moment. When nothing else is going on, when she hasn't had a stressful day. ( or tell your dad whichever you are closer with ) And tell them. Tell them very calmly, and tell them you really need their support. You understand, and they have a right to be upset, but you need them more than ever.
When I told my dad, I was 18. I got pregnant when I was 17, and I waited the 3 months until I was 18 to tell him. I was so so so scared. But not telling him ate me alive. I waited until we were alone, and I asked him, daddy would you love me no matter what I did? And he said yes, and I said what if it was really, really bad and went against everything you had ever taught me? And he said yes. I said, you really would love me no matter what? And he said yes, why? Are you pregnant? I put my head down and I said yes. You see, I was so scared, I couldn't bring myself to say those words. So, I led my father into it. May not be the best approach for everyone but it was the best my little heart could do.
They may be upset, but all in all at the end of the day you are still their child and they will love you, no matter what. And you want me to tell you something else? They are going to love their grandchild to death. It isn't going to be easy. And the best thing for your boyfriend to do is stand up and do what is right by you and that baby. It may be in the best interest of the situation to go somewhere with you parents and your bf, and tell them together. It may show them that he plans to stand up and be a man. It may show more responsibility.
I can't tell ya how to do it, you just need to come out as soon as possible, be honest, and try to be calm. It'll be alright
2006-10-09 15:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your parents tried to save you from your own stupidity, but you went behind their backs. Now you are getting life lesson in why your parents were right in the first place. They are going to be hurt, angry and disappointed. Prepare yourself, and be honest. If they press charges for statutory rape, then you have to accept their decision. They knew what was best for you before now, and you have to follow their rules now.
Did you not think that birth control would be a good idea?
What if you were also dealing with an STD--have you been tested for those?
2006-10-09 14:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone at planned parenthood. No matter what, though, I can't promise that he's not going to get in trouble. You are 15--he is 18. That's illegal. I'm sorry that this happened to you...but from now on, use protection, OK? If you're mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to have responsible sex. This is not a small thing. I'm a mother of two children, and it is the hugest responsibility you could ever have. Ever.
2006-10-09 14:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just have to sit down with your mom and tell her that you made a big mistake and that you need to talk to her about something serious. Then just tell her that you took a test and found out that you are pregnant. Honesty is the best policy.
2006-10-09 15:16:53 · answer #11 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋