we only have sex 2 times a month because i don 't have the desire to what could be wrong with me or us , maybe someone coulld help i also have 3 kids.
2006-10-09 14:47:16 · 19 answers · asked by amanda b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hello,
This is not abnormal at all... Sometimes we all have stronger urges or sexual desires at times and at different levels and ages of life.... Try dating your husband and doing things with him alone without the kids. There is nothing wrong with you or your marriage. Talk with your spouse and see how he feels about things . See what you can do to improve upon this if you feel it is a problem.
2006-10-09 14:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two times a month? Your husband is lucky! My husband and I just went through this discussion last weekend when I wouldn't give in. I could honestly live without never having sex again. I have two children 1 and 5. I get up every morning at 4:30, work in a factory standing for 10 hours a day come home fix dinner, I have an extra job at night cleaning an office for extra money, come back home clean up, bathe kids, do homework, bathe myself and get to bed around 10-10:30. I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR SEX. It's not that I don't love my husband but I just don't want it. I wasn't this way before the kids so maybe it is hormones.
2006-10-09 14:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by ArkyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try watching a movie together that is hot and heavy (not porn just a suggestive flick) also look into a kama sutra book all kinds of new positions can entice interest. Possibly look into some kinky toys if thats in your realm of consideration. Honestly the world moves so fast who has time to think much less be intimate i fear for the future... DON'T listen to these sarcastic #*@(* who make light of your situation thats so rude and just plain ignorant. Children (i imagine) make a love life tougher. Like many mentioned talk about it look into doing different and strange things just to make it new and exciting again. Your husband shouldn't leave you over something like this at least you care... I would say talk to him find out what he would most like to do or try new... like the other guy suggested a little oral goes a long way... wake him up with a BJ... OMG thats so nice... hehe good luck!
2006-10-09 15:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by j h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to sound pessimistic but...My ex and I only had it about 2 times a month until he finally gave is *^$(*%^ girlfriend. Now we have 3 times a week usually. Check for the signs hun. You may not desire him cause that thought is in the back of your mind...I know that what I was doing. So sorry, hope ya'll start a fire under that bed....
Good Luck
2006-10-09 14:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by trouble421muah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and i bet the 3 kids are young. i went thru that, too. you're just tired. for now, try to do it at least 1x a week for his sake, and know that the desire will come back to you after your kids are less demanding on your body. it's hard to be pulled & pushed all day by little ones and then have your husband want to pull & push all night too. just think about how it really DOES feel good after you do it, so just do it without making him jump thru all the hoops of begging, etc. just do it. and soon enough you'll start to be more interested and do it more than once a week. good luck! we've all been there & we all come out of it soon enough :)
2006-10-09 14:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not good. If you aren't having sex more than every other week, and you aren't masturbating at least 3-4 times per week, you need to spend more time putting yourself in a position to have erotic thoughts. Ready a book or watching a sexy movie might help. Thinking about sex more might help. Make it interesting and make your husband feel special.
2006-10-09 14:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to be mean or judge you but I am going to give you my honest opinion. I have been happily married for 8 years to a beautiful and loving wife. If you want to keep your husband you better pick it up in the sex area, cuz if you don't someone else will. 2 times a month is definately not enough. Remember you don't have to have full intercourse to keep a man happy. Trust me, a little oral goes a long way.
2006-10-09 14:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its obviously because you are busy running a house and all. do you work? maybe you can find time to pamper yourself a bit, you will be feeling a bit sexy after that. besides, we all have our highs and lows with our sex drives. don't panic, 2 times in a month, is really not that bad...relax
you do not have to count the number of times. when you feel good and ready you might have 40times a month, and the next month have nothing at all. i think u shd just relax
2006-10-09 14:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by naa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you.Me and my wife don't have sex either.Maybe you can sit down and talk to him about the way you feel.He might not be aware of this and is thinking nothing is wrong.But you think something is or else you would'nt be here now asking this.Just try that and see what happens.
2006-10-09 14:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by nick j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might be due to ur age and also due to kids u r tired whole day.Ask ur hubby to make sex in early morning and whole day love him by words cos> love by words is more important then the physical sex.I am male n I 2 lack this with my wife cos words r absent in her dictionary.
2006-10-09 14:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by dentist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋