I admit i am scared..Iv'e been with this guy for 3 monthes.. I don't think I am in love.. but i definently have love for him.. I wonder maybe i will never fall in love.. He makes me happy and everything.. so any of you feel the same?
2006-10-09 14:25:51 · 9 answers · asked by Gaga <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well here's a poem i wrote about that kind of situation dont know if itll help but ...
Afraid Of
I'm afraid to let you in,
Because I may like you,
I'm afraid to like you,
Because I may fall in love,
I'm afraid to fall in love,
Because I may get hurt,
I'm afraid to get hurt,
Because of the pain,
I'm afraid of the pain,
Because of the scars,
I'm afraid of the scars,
Because they may bleed,
I'm afraid of the blood,
Because I may die,
I'm afraid to die,
Because I may survive,
I'm afraid to survive,
Because I may let you in,
And the cycle starts all over again.
Ashlie Nicholle Haines
Copyright ©2006 Ashlie Nichole Haines
(( * i was always afraid of love yet my fiance was too everyones afraid just listen to your heart because love is blind to the human eye but visible to the heart... *))
2006-10-09 14:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by baby_ashes_10 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's only a social action for a man to propose. In a well established couple, where both are sure, the answer is "obvious". He almost didn't have to ask, she knew he knows the response. Against doubts of either asking o considering, that's a "no go", especially from becomming even more commited. Proposing to someone who does not want a commitment, is basically a self destruction that you are doing to yourself. Also, love does not fade, she is reffering to a phase of fluctuation, that happens in many or most couples, especially those who have just meet, and that fluctuation/sensation, people confuse it with love. Some later say love has fade, in reality, they are reffering to that illusion that they created to themselves, believing something about a person, sometimes without being able to prove it, or without letting time do its work. Some couples get married, and may years later is when they discover true love, and you two seem to be FAR from that stage, at least her, that has to think if she would commit or not. If help is what you want, the help is to just date her for the fun of doing it, and do not commit to this person. She does not love you, it seems she is expecting someone else, to whom she would commit. I never write an answer to be chosen as the best, or I try to be unnecessarily nice with others. You asked for help, and in the long run, the answer above is what will benefit you a lot more than making a commitment, with someone that does not want it with you. Also, after the words "no commitment", anything after that (afraid to be in love, etc), is not accurate, you will understand something completely different than what she means, and you may be in denial too (which is a phase when a couple splits). She knows what she wants, if it was you, you would know it since a while ago and you wouldn't have to propose or even ask her that question.
2016-03-18 07:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's only been three months. Give it some time. You don't fall in love over night, or at any set pace. When you feel it, you feel it. You said you have love for him. Let that be enough for now and see where it goes from here. Falling in love can be a scary thing, especially if you've been hurt in the past. Take your time.
2006-10-09 14:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by Social_D 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Laura there is many stages of Love. Actually 4, in my own experience. It's allot like the Trinity. No I'm not going to preach at you. I just was told that my views have this in common. There are 3 phases of Love. 1) Love of the Heart, girls are big on this. It's called romance. Guys suck at it. 2) Love of Desires, the big "L" Lust. Guys are good at this, girls suck at it. Yes that's love too, and necessary, in an adult relationship. 3) Love of the mind, WISDOM. Alto of questions flow from this love. Like is he going to be stable, supportive, can he afford a relationship that goes the distance. Put all these together and you have True love. Subtract any one of these and it won't last. Guaranteed!
2006-10-09 14:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be scared, be brave, be confident, be you. Thats all you need to do to fall in love. Oh most importantly love yourself and never give up, never run away from the person your scared to fall in love with. Because guess what? maybe his scared aswell. So dont runaway, be confident.
I wil be supporting you! Good Luck!
2015-08-01 21:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love makes you feel vulnerable. Who wants to feel like that??? It's okay to be in love, especially if you know you can trust that person. Trust can sometimes take a long time, but isn't the relationship worth you finding out that you can trust sharing your heart with him?
Be careful, but enjoy finding love.
2006-10-09 14:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by dtaschan 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's been 3 months! Who cares if you have love for him and makes you happy, just worry about having a good time love will come when the time is right
2006-10-09 14:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by traci s 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same about two years ago. I'm still wit the guy and he makes me very happy. Its only been three months give it time. Now if after about 8 - 12 months theres still nothing, maybe its time for him to go-(retire his clock like Flavor Flav on flavor of love) hahaha
2006-10-09 14:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by chiniseford 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usualy if somebody has trouble falling in love because they have been hurt before. If you are inlove you will know it you get butterflys and know you couldnt imagine life with out them. Give it time if it dosent happen then maybe you are with the wrong person.
2006-10-09 14:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
your problem. we dont know the situation. sorry but maybe you should go to people who know you. cant really help.
2006-10-09 14:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by triskaidekaphobia 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋