She took half a bottle of Tylenol & a number of Adderol. She was taken to the emergency room & they pumped her stomach & used several kinds of bases to balance out the acidity of the Tylenol but it was no use. While she was in the bed she kept saying, "I don't want to die. I don't want to keep being a failure." Her parents pulled the plug because they didn't want her to go through anymore pain & becasue the doctors said that if she survived it would only be for a few days because of the extent of the damage on her liver, kidneys & such due to the Tylenol. She's is in 3 of my classes to school today was hell & I've known her since 8th grade. My question is, how do you deal with survivor's guilt? How do I help others too? & if I go to the wake & funeral, will the reality of her death really set in? Because I'm tired of randomly bursting out into uncontrollable sobs.
2006-10-09 14:03:39 · 7 answers · asked by Nonny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm sorry that you friend passed away. That must be very sad. Something in her life must have been very troubling. Maybe she kept it inside. Don't keep your grief inside. Get it out either by talking to others who knew her or to your siblings or family.
When I was 9, a classmate of mine was accidentally shot to death. I heard it on the radio. It took me a long time to get over it. He was only 9. Young people shouldn't die. I don't know how old your friend was, but she was probably a teenager and being a teenager is hard at times because so many things are going on in their lives. It's sad that she thought herself a failure.
I don't know what you can do to help others except to let them talk about it with you. It may help others and you.
I can't tell you if going to her wake and funeral will make it real for you.
There's nothing wrong with crying. You're going through grief and unfortunately grief is a process.
One day you'll accept it.
2006-10-09 14:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart, one positive way to look at it is that your friend, may she rest in peace, is now free from life's pain and suffering. Your friend is gone and nothing will bring her back. Death is a very difficult thing to deal with. You never get over the death of a loved one. And time does not make it any better. But you must learn to except it. So go ahead and cry your heart out. Let it all out. Although this might sound weird, you'll feel it inside when your mind finally excepts. Then you can just move on.
2006-10-09 14:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by Justa_Honay_Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, everyone deals with the passing of friends/family in different ways. What may seem like a good answer to one person might not even come close to what works for you. What happened wasn't your fault, everyone will tell you that. People who are suicidal are going to find a way to commit suicide - 1/2 the time you can't even tell somethings different about them. As bad as it sounds - celebrate her life rather than mourning her loss. Grieve - you need to, but know that it's not your fault. Also, the school counselor should be able to help more, they're good to talk to and have more resources to help you cope. Good luck, I'm rooting' for ya.
2006-10-09 14:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ma'êšeeonáhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I will say some prayers.
Its just going to take some time for you. How does anyone surive that guilt? I think that the best healing process for you is just time. Talk about it with someone, that always helps. Your mom or dad or a trusted friend, just don't keep your feelings bottled up, that makes things worse. The best way to help others is to speak up and speak to be heard about this. Form a rally to inform others of the dangers of mixing these "drugs", its hard to do but it will help not just you try and cope with her loss but inform and change somebody elses mind. Best of luck to you and your friends family.
2006-10-09 14:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by colinsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, hon! Im so sorry! Random burst of sobbing makes you human. It seems so much to take in, doesnt it? Its ok if your overwhelmed, confused, moody..everyone reacts to guilt, sadness,and mostly death, in an individual way. It is important to go to her services. It can help bring closure. If you are feeling just awful..? Write. Send a small note to her parents, siblings, mention her great qualities, offer to help, bake, organize the services. Anything you can to help others will take your mind off your hurt. And you will, hurt. And I will, pray for her, think of you, and it will get better. Not stop hurting, only, get easier. God bless
2006-10-09 14:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by lacheralvssax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always tough but try to focus on the positive memories and the times you had and don't forget that death is a portal to a more accommodating place
2006-10-09 14:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by frostbite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS OK TO CRY..LET IT ALL OUT..TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT IT..THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME BEFORE AND IT HURTS...I KNOW IT HURTS..BUT TALKING HELPS...IT SEEMS YOU WHERE CLOSE...WHAT YOU CAN DO IS TO GIVE AN APPRECIATION SPEECH ON THE GOOD MEMORIES YOU ALL SHARED W/ HER
2006-10-09 14:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by cubs_gurl97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋