i'm not talking about infatuation here. i'm referring to something like... at first the feeling is shallow because it's just physical attraction, but then the feeling gets more intense, as if you knew the person, or at least was building up some sort of image of what you think they are like in your mind. and then getting jealous and emotional about the fact that anybody that likes them also or anyone they are with.
2006-10-09 13:27:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't think you can truly love someone if you've never talked to them or have no idea of what their personality is like. I know you can really like how someone looks, but just through looks, you have no idea of what the person is like. If the person turned out to be a complete jerk (I mean completely insensitive, doesn't care about anything or anyone but himself, kills animals for fun, spits on old people, etc etc etc) then I think, even if their looks are great, you can't help but NOT love the person.
I believe that you can start feelings of attraction through seeing a person, and those feelings can turn into love upon talking to the person and getting to know him/her better, but ultimately, TRUE love cannot exist purely through sight.
2006-10-09 13:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by can_u_still_feel_the_butterflies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should meet a person before you love them. I think it's common for people to think they love someone they are sort of mentally imagining to be perfect.. People are so different in person. It's possible.
It can be really convenient to love someone you haven't met, but what if they do something really unattractive in person that you don't like, or they stink, or they act obnoxious, or rude in a restraunt, or they wore flip flops with really long gross toe nails and didn't even realize how gross it was.. Then you go into living with the person....
You would have to be lucky to find your dream mate without meeting them first. That is just my opinion though.
2006-10-09 13:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by idontknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a really intense crush to me. Although, I've felt that way plenty of times and I know it was love to me. So, if you feel that way it's either a really intense crush or it's love - I think it's love if you found out something unattractive about the person and still care for them anyway.
Enjoy the feeling - I know I do. :)
2006-10-09 13:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by heaven25star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not love sugar, it does sound like a form of infatuation ("A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction")...how can you love someone you don't know? You are physically attracted and that's it...it may or may not be that you'd actually like this person if you got to know them...what you've built them up to be in your mind, is likely pretty far off from who they really are...
2006-10-09 13:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a case of infatuation, or "chemistry" (sort of lust) - followed by an active fantasy or imagination.
If you've never talked to him, you can't "know" him - therefore, anything past the physical attraction you feel is fantasy.
2006-10-09 13:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can know a person enough to love or not unless you have spent a good amount of time with them. The more the better, probably.
2006-10-09 13:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can really fall in love with someone until you really get to know them. I think what you're describing is infatuation and idealistic fantasy.
2006-10-10 18:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. All I know is that I saw my husband as he entered the room, and I thought "I am going to marry him". actually it was more like a certainty in my mind. He sat near me, we talked, and that was it. We married and are still together.
He is not a supermodel ( I was at the time) , but he was my destiny, and I loved him before I knew him.
2006-10-09 13:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by his girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this person is very special to you. It isn't love yet because love is a two way gig. This reads like you need to make serious contact.
2006-10-09 13:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of feel that way about Johnny Depp. So far he has not contacted me, however.
2006-10-09 13:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋