Have you ever found yourself? Will this ever happen...When will it happen...?

Question

What can I do to find myself? I'm already 27...
I have a tendency to feel lost, sometimes, when I don't get to talk to friends I'd regularly meet with or study with at school.

I was talking with my counselor the other day, and said that the reason why I'm hesitant to decide on a major is because of the unknown. He suggested a major, and advised me to try it.
Perhaps, this is not only about choosing a major; it's also about figuring out what I really want to do with my life.

So, before I left his office that day, he asked what I'll be majoring in, and I said yes, I'll major in it...but still I feel like I'm not deciding. I tried reading about this major; about the reasons of others for choosing this field, etc..

I'm starting to feel that if I let time passes by without thinking about it and deciding, there seems to be no reason for me to be in college or there would be nothing to motivate me to continue...
My friends are ones of the very few people who encourage me.

Answer 1

Just forget every thing and cheer up mate. Always try to be happy and smile.

Answer 2

I don't believe you "find yourself." You self finds you. Nothing is carved in stone; we go through so many phases! What we felt was "right" yesterday may have been then, but today can be quite different. Just keep yourself "open;" a balance between flowing with life & having (always temporary) direction. Not only is life unpredictable, so are we. & I think that's part of what makes life so exciting. & never any regrets! I could never believe if I were to "go back" I'd do things differently. I'd be the same as I was then. Sort of like saying--who would I be if I weren't me. The world won't come to an end if you decide to change your course. So many people are concerned about the RIGHT way, plotting & controlling their lives. Sounds logical. But how about the serendipty of living?

Answer 3

I know completely how you feel. I decided on a major before I really every thought about it. Now, I have a job in my major, and I don't feel like I belong in that profession. My suggestion to you is to take a good, close look at your life. What do you see? What do you excell at? What makes you truly happy. It sounds like you need to be around people, and even as if you're really into your school. Are there any jobs at your school which would allow you to stay on that campus and around that atmosphere? Many undecided majors go for something like communications, since it is fairly versitile. Look at yourself, though...take some time and just think. What would make YOU happy? When you know that, pursue it, and don't look back. I wish you the best of luck in your endevors.

Answer 4

You are not alone....
Life is not easy when it comes to selecting your career.
If you could go out and test all the different jobs available that would be nice....but that would be very hard to do.
How about taking pen and paper and sit and write down the things you enjoy doing the most.
Then with that list....see what jobs..would fit into your lifestyle and what you enjoy doing.
Every person needs to be in a career that fits their personality you are the only one who can decide..the counselors can only suggest but YOU...are the last one to come up with the answer.
Sometimes it takes some people longer to decide..there is nothing wrong with you...so don't put yourself down.
here is one example ..that might help you ...it's what I've done in my work history....I realized I liked to work with people...and not sitting behind a desk. I love cooking and serving people. So I finally found a job at a coffee shop...I got to talk to people...feed them and be creative making different drinks....that made me very happy. It fit me to a tee.....I enjoyed waking up in the morning and going to work....I didn't dread it.....
In the end...you will find what you love to do...sometimes it takes 4 different tries..to find the job you really love.....not everyone makes the right choice the first time....

Best wishes and take care....
Mama Jazzy Geri

Answer 5

I was lucky.The day my son was born I knew that I was going to be a stay at home mom.Before that I was destined for a career in Commercial Graphics.It was lucky that I had "That" epiphany because a few years later It was discovered that he was challenged.
By being there for him I found myself.I found that I was dependable and patient and stronger than I ever thought. I learned to love myself b/c someone so special thought the world of ME.Look inside yourself,not outside as the world or doctors or friends see.Be honest with yourself and love yourself.If you can do this then you'll be able to see what you need to be happy, you'll see it and touch it and make it real.You can do this.

Answer 6

Even if you are 100% of what you want, it doesn't mean you'll like it. I was completely sure I wanted to be an MD, after a semester I HATED IT! I had built my life around it though... long story short, I forgot about it and moved on. Never been happier. Stop using your friends as emotional crutches and take risks, worst thing that could happen is that you don't like it.

Answer 7

Wow. I have been there friend. First let me say...I am around your age. It is a challenge I think for our age group. I am no expert, but what I had to do is start journaling. This helped me, over about a month, to see what was really important to me. What I spent my time on.What I spent my money on (although not having a lot helped to). I also conculted a freind who at least could tell me what she/he sees my strengths are. And if you are really brave...what your weaknesses are. I admire you for asking, and hope and pray you find the peace I have finally now. Good luck my friend, I understand.

Answer 8

You know what's funny? You are always there when you don't want you to be, and you never seem to be there when you want you to be at the same time. I know that's confusing, but it's true. The thing about losing yourself is...no matter where you go, there you are! Just think a bit, you won't have to look far.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are somewhat depressed. See a professional counselor or therapist. Maybe they can help you. I'm serious.

Answer 10

don't feel obligated to become someone, find something that interest you and following your imagination, then u find something meaningful