how do i tell my new best friend ,who is not very open ,that his new girlfriend is the biggest mistake that he could ever make,because this girl does not care about him at all ,all she cares about is sex,and that can be good sometimes ,but in his case that would be bad,he is a pastors son ,he has an image,he got in trouble for getting a girl pregnant and after many i am sorrys and crying his parents gave him another chance and having a crazy wild sex freek who does not care about anything is dangerous for his reputation,he seems to realy like this girl,so how do i start,cause his my homeboy and i whant what is best for him
2006-10-09 13:22:59 · 16 answers · asked by john 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you may not want to hear this....but doing so for your friend...will only bring him closer to this girl....because eventhough....it may not be good for him, but in his mind it is...and i know you want to protect your friend in every possible way that you can...but he must learn life on his own, just as you do...now if you start telling him things about this girl....he is going to start thinking that you don't want to see him happy...because he's happy right now so its hard for him too see the wrong in her...you see it because you don't have that kind of like for her...but as ppl we must grow on our own and we must learn on our own...that way when something happens we wont have anyone to blame for our own faults....understand what i'm sayng....thats part of growing up sweetheart....i'm sorry if your friend is in a bad situation but let him get himself out of it....it will turn him into a man....you can't always run to his aid when there is a problem... that he seems to not have a problem with...let him grow!
2006-10-09 13:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! Tell him to be careful and stay out of the middle. Even if that is your friend. When someone is in a relationship and they are happy any thing you stay will go right over his head! I'm sure you are not the only one who sees whats going on. If you really care about him let him learn the hard way,he is going to stay with her any way! You will just make your self look jealous by butting in his affairs....Step back...It's like watching a kid run around after you told them to walk ,they don't stop until they fall and hurt them self's really bad!
2006-10-09 20:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by cody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your friend absolutely love this girl? if so, just slip it in casually like, hey, don't you think that sometimes your girl friend is not great? if he isn't you can just right out tell him. He's your friend and you should care about him. if he wouldn't talk to you, eventually he'll learn that you were caring most for him, not you. He'll realize that he made a mistake.
2006-10-09 20:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by chaos causer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit n talk to him bot life,other story that similar with his case. n if u have proofs the bad result of hisaction then show him. at that time mayb he won't b able to accept it bt at least he will think bot it.if he realise it that u r correct then change his mind,it shows that ur a very gd psyciatrist.bt if nt then dun b upset,at least u have tried urbest for him
2006-10-09 20:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you could tell him the evidence and tell him to be careful.
Trust me, if you tell your BF shes not good for him, or right for him...He will take offense. Trust me, Ive been there and I got pissed at my friend. I later got engaged to this girl. Three years later, I dumped her. But i almost lost afriend because of it.
You must be careful in this situation not to offend him or piss him off.
2006-10-09 20:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him... get in his face. Sometimes you need a person that knows you well enough to make descisions for you. He may thank you later... maybe not but if you care about him you will tell him.
2006-10-09 20:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ali R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully, don't say anything. he has to learn the lesson for himself. just be there for him and listen to him if he needs you to.
people in relationships don't appreciate when others offer negative opinions about their partners - and it could create tension between you and the girl, which could then effect your relationship with your mate.
just hold your tongue and accept that he has to make his own mistakes. and be there for him if he crashes and falls.
2006-10-09 20:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to tell him is by telling him you want to be more than his friend.
Dr Bad
2006-10-09 20:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say it,he will see in the long run.
2006-10-09 20:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ramon O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what he likes about her. that will get the ball rolling. and then you just have to go for it and tell him what he's risking .... family, home, money .... whatever it is and then ask him if its worth it.
but he has to make the decision ....
2006-10-09 20:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by life_unreal125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋