A question for the ladies....??

Question

is it really bad guys you are attracted to & why?..... & if not why?

& just so you know i am a door holding .....glass pouring...neck kissing sort of fellow......hehe...x

Answer 1

You know I looked at your brief and thought this was your homework question.

How about taking a quick reality check, doesn't like attract like?

Since when have you seen a well spoken, well dressed, female with a good occupation courting or married to a truly bad guy.

Violence breeds violence, violent women are nearly always with violent men and even when these women have had enough of being battered or of doing the battering and they seperate, I can't help but think 'like attracts like'.

Sometime ago, I visited a load of women and their children in a battered womens refuge, and of all the women present only one, struck me as truly being badly done to and out of place. I am not advocating that violence against women is right - indeed it is wrong, but likewise over the last decade there has been a rise in the number of cases of violence against men, and neither situation is right.

Sometimes a ruggid looking man by some women is found to be attractive, others like danger and conniving, men can play hard to get to. In both cases they have stories to tell of battles fought and won or battles fought and lost. The story if the scar may be intriguing for some women.

Others really enjoy a good boxing match or wrestling tournament, and will participate in shouting on who they support maybe having a bet. I suppose this is what is known as the beastial attraction of our conflicting biologies. Flesh attacking flesh or maybe male against male to win the female. Some women can actually be turned on by this - hence our inner cities can be riddled with drunken fights and trouble sometimes over women. Male and male fighting is sometimes cleaner than women, and if drunk highly amusing especially if one is the big bungling sort - on women fighting, women in general being the weaker of the species will fight dirty to win.Some men like this for the same reasons there is a sexual buzz.

When women say they like a man with a sense of humour, I'd view that as the last and least attractive feature women really go for. Otherwise the most attractive women would be seen with the likes of Ken Dodd for a husband.

It is therefore chemistry that truly attracts.

On reflection your question could also be begging of your own personal experience, especially if your girlfriend or your wife is looking to spicing up your love life, with a little gentle teasing and mild S & M. Are you not bad enough? No never of course you are after asking a question like this one. So no smilies, but a teasng wink would have come in handy here, from this sometimes very naughty woman. He he.

Answer 2

I don't think it's so much that the ladies are attracted to bad guys, as much as they're looking for a little challenge. If a guy is always all "lemme do it for you, what else can I do for you..." that's gonna get a little bit annoying. Expecially the hot ladies, they always got guys doing everything for them, and they start to know what the brotha is after... and it's not just cause they're gentlemen. Ladies are a lot smarter that we give them credit for. If it's too easy, it's not much fun. Like the kiddie games at the amusement park - sure you can win real easy, but sometimes the prize you end up with is just a cheezy toy.

Ya gots ta be Smoooove! Then the ladies chase after you.

Answer 3

I think every female goes through that stage where she's attracted to someone she sees as exciting, and often that means someone "dangerous or bad." But believe me - it gets old quickly. Deep down most women still want someone caring and mature. A lot of times women don't realize this until they're in an abusive or unhealthy relationship, and sometimes they see that as normal (which makes it harder to enjoy a REAL normal relationship). All around nice guys who are adventurous but dependable win out in the long run!

Answer 4

they are frequently in simple terms lonely or not lonely,being concerned people who love animals and don't have the heart to show away strays.there may be some who're loopy,yet,hi, all of us could be loopy.And diverse human beings have diverse evaluations on what loopy is.case in point,some human beings might think of you're loopy.LOL and by using how,i'm the dictionary lady

Answer 5

This is something that is much misunderstood. Most women like a guy who has a backbone and can stand up to her, but isn't overall a bad guy or a rebel. We dont want a guy who does dumb stuff and gets in trouble. We want a guy who is polite and nice, but will tell us when we are wrong.

If you agree to everything a woman wants and says then you do become unattractive. Hope that clears things up.

Answer 6

i can't speak for every one,but when I was younger,I was so attracted to bad guys,that it wasn't funny,and no I don't really know why I was so attracted to them.The last bad guy I dated,was a real loser.I just don't know what really happened,but I had just had enough of them.it was through all those bad guys that I dated that made me realise what i wanted from a life partner,and it was the complete opposite of the bag guys.I am now married to a good guy,whom I just love and adore,and couldn't have mad a better choice of a man to share my life with.

Answer 7

*Pets da pretty wolfie*

What is a "bad boy", exactly?

My husband is a black-leather-wearing hardcore biker. Tattoos, the whole nine yards. When his face is devoid of expression, he just looks, well, mean.

And he is the most polite, respectful, well-mannered, sweet, wonderful man I have ever met. He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. We have been married for eight years, together for 11.

Answer 8

I think everyone (regardless of gender) will want someone whom they find interesting (it's completely objective, btw). the rule applies to myself, too. The guys I find interesting are the fun ones, witty, with a wicked sense of humour, and a bit daring. But of course, as with everything, there's a limit to it =)

Answer 9

I was always attracted to guys with a good sense of humour.

Let's face it, looks fade, hairlines too, and a slender waistline won't always withstand the ravages of time; but a great personality does...

I've been with my guy for getting on 35 years and he is STILL making me laugh!

Answer 10

lol, no

Im attracted to nerds, mostly because I'm one myself. There's nothing quite like a good person to make you appreciate how wonderful life really is.

I only have two requirements in a male: that he be faithful and that he have good self esteem. A person with good self esteem will automatically have redeeming qualities to counterbalance their faults.