If your boyfriend was doing drugs would you tell his parent's?

Question

We are breaking up because of it, and wonder if I should tell them the real reason of the breakup.

It's cocaine and he denies it when I confront him, but I have seen all the evidence. Straws, rolled bills, white residue,etc he says it is his friends......after ten months I am not believing.

Answer 1

well if your breaking up...you dont have to tell them because he will no longer be your boyfriend...let someone else shoulder the burdon of his drug abuse....find a nice guy who's actually on this planet, someone who will respond to you instead of being high as a kite and not in his own mind...and don't tell his parents.....they'll find out soon enough by someone else....or they may notice his change in personality....

Answer 2

Being the mother of an addict I would say yes,please tell his parents.I was unaware that my son was on drugs as he was not living with me at the time he started.By the time I did find out he was completely hooked on cocaine and anything else that came along.I have seen him in some terrible states,climbing the walls hallucinating,paranoid,he's been like a trapped wimpering animal,it's heartbreaking.
It's been fifteen years now,it's been hell for him and for us as a family.Thank god he is now clean but still has problems with addictions such as gambling which is a cross addiction.
When I think of the money that he has spent on drugs , booze,and gambling he could have bought a house by now outright.His whole life has been messed up by taking drugs.Now he feels he has missed out on l5 years of his life and can't seem to get it back.He suffers with manic depression due to his way of life although no longer an addict.If we had known about his addiction at the beginning we may have been able to stop him before he became too addicted.Three of my son's friends have hung themselves due to being on drugs,one was stabbed to death because he owed a dealer money.It's hell on earth being on them.
Do tell his parents,whether any of them appreciate you telling or not, I can tell you that you will have done the best thing.So have no conscience about doing what's best.
I for one would have no quarms about grassing on the dealers either if you know them,their bastards who pray on other peoples weaknesses,hang them all I say.Your obviously a bright girl to realise that he needs more help than you can offer.They alway deny everything,if you stay with him you will have a terrible life if he doesn't get help.Your obviously young,so steer clear,he has to want to do this on his own.Best of Luck anyway.

Answer 3

I think that if you cared deeply about this person as a friend first and then a boyfriend second then my answer would be yes...tell his parents. It might not be easy...use your best judgement. You might even want to drop a big hint to them without telling them everything. You could drop a note to them saying something like, "I've made a choice to stop seeing "Joe" because of the choices he is making in his life. I don't feel it is my place to speak for him. So, if you have any questions, please direct them to him. I care(d) about him as a friend and a boyfriend but I can no longer condone the choices he's made.Ultimately, they are affecting my life in a negative manner and I won't tolerate it." Good for you for making a tough but right decision. The life you might save...might be your own.

Answer 4

Never discuss his private life with his parents. They will just worry and his behaviour would be pushed into secrecy.

Speak to a brother or sister of his if he has one that knows about his problem.

Other than that get as much information about drug miss use as you can and leave it for him to read. Also try and get him into other things like active sports. Ask him to go to gym with you or swim etc. Try and get him a natural high.

Don't give up on him it will hopefully be a phase and tell him the purity of drugs he is buying is very questionable. Who knows what is mixed with it. Is he happy to make somebody rich that is putting brick dust and plant fertilizer in with his powder?

Answer 5

I have been in your situation before and i held it from his parents and when I eventually told his mother she had known all along. We all think that Parents don't know what we get up to but they turn a Blind eye because they don't want to believe that your child who they brought up could do such a thing.

you know that saying 'speak now or forever hold your peace' well only you can honestly answer this question.

if your boyfriend had any ounce off sense he would refrain from doing drugs because it is not only his life that he is ruining but all off those that love him dearly.

My ex fiance died off an overdoes this July and the man I was going to spend the rest off my life with was tragically taken by drugs. So can you imagine how I felt after spending 4 years with him to read in the Evening gazette that he was found collapsed under a bridge and later died in hospital. You know the worst part is i gave up on him, i walked out after i found out he was still doing drugs. It is not your duty to save him but don't turn a blind eye.

If you can get help if not directly from you and from his parents go for it!

Answer 6

Yes I would, in a heartbeat. You have to know that traveling down this path will only get worse as time goes. I think that it is in the best interest of anyone to get help when and while they can. You will only be doing him a favor. I was a heavy meth user about four years ago and had to get help and am so glad that others stepped in and cared enough about me to do it. Good luck....this could be one of the bravest things you ever do.

Answer 7

yes of course omg he could be killed because of it he might say things like don't tell my mom(dad) they would kill me of don't tell my parents i will be grounded life! well he could be likked ofr life and tht would not be good people in the past years have been killed or harmed by doing drugs and that is not ok most people 10-18 have been experimenting with drugs and that it not ok! wether or not you like or don't like him do it for the human race people are working in hospitols to save people every living person has someone looking out for them and making sure they are ok if people didn't care if people got likked then there would be no hospitols because everone would not care if someone was sick of needed imediend medical help!!!!! if you have a right mind you will go to his parents and tell them straight up and tell them everything and make sure they inderstand about the whold situation and that there son is into drugs!

Answer 8

I left my boyfriend and took our kids when I found out he was doing meth, I also told his family but no matter what if he is into the drug enough he probably won't care. I found that leaving him only made things worse ( his drug use) when I came back and supported him through his hard times he realized what he was doing was wrong and stopped to keep his family and kids. Good Luck!

Answer 9

YES!!Go right to his house, when he's not there, sit them down and let them know what's going on with him. Chances are they have some idea. I went through the same thing. My bf got into heroin!!! He lied and lied but you know. I went to his house and took his mom right to his drawer which was filled with needles and drugs! He was mad at me at first but it opened my eyes about him. I can't stand the thought of him now. It's been 2 years and he still mants me back! Yea right! He will not stop for you so don't waste your time being there for him!

Answer 10

Depends what kind of drugs. If he is smoking a lil pot leave him alone.
But telling the parents...hmm thats a hard one.
I grew up in a neighborhood that was called snitching or being a rat.
I guess it depends on how bad his drugs are.