It just seems like everythign is happening for people but me. Im an attractive girl and its like i find myself wishing for a boyfriend or just to feel comfortable about myself. My friends who used to be able to relate to me are now getting everything they never used to have...will it ever be my turn?
2006-10-09 12:27:43 · 19 answers · asked by And kayla was like 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friends moving on and not being able to relate to them....well are you living your life for them? hence you want to associate everything with them?
trust me on this one as you mature and develop into a fine young lady you will eventually meet the right man. you see your probably not meeting anyone at present its because you are probably unaware off it but you have high expectations. if you are attractive as you mentioned in your question then maybe it comes down to your confidence which is making the guys intimidated by your persona.
In order to establish your inner self is to take time out to honestly ask yourself where do you see yourself in X amount off years and then plan ahead. you will find that shadowing others footsteps will only make your life a misery and as for friends as you grow your circle off friends will change and those that are friends for life will always crop up and make you reminiscent the good old days when you need it the most.
At your tender age I will just sit back and enjoy it whilst you can because before you know it, 42 is just round the corner.
2006-10-09 12:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by June 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kayla,
you need to first work on being a better person. If you seem too desperate, boys will say the right things you want to hear and use you for sex. Believe me, i'm 26 and i've had way too many female friends used like that and they dont feel too good about it now. But maybe that's the only way to learn, by going through your own mistakes and figuring them out on your own. You want a true relationship you can trust with your heart and your intuition. About you not having everything, well, life isn't fair and we've all had our share of cirumstances, but having everything will never make you grow and the next thing you knwo, you'll begin to sound and act like Paris Hilton. It all depends on what you want from you a boyfriend, your life, and yourself. I'd say consider being happy by yourself and you will find someone you truly cares for you and wants to make you happy. Mark my words on this, 99% of guys < age 21 think about 1) having sex 2) sleeping 3) studying 4) friends and sports
Sincerely, Abhik Roy
2006-10-09 12:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by roya67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Totally! You just wait and see. I know what umean though. I feel the same. Everyone else has a great life. They have money, awesome stuff and go to concerts when I'm the shy poor girl who talks a lot to people and have only 2 friends and I like a boy who I think likes me too but yet nobody likes me. I feel like I'm invisible at school, but when I get home, I have my online pals to talk to. Just try and make the best of it. Sometimes things aren't as bad as they seem.
2006-10-09 12:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone probably thinks the same thing about everyone else. People perceive others differently such as being successful, popular, or just having their head screwed on. There are also those that try & pretend to be something they are not just so others can perceive them to be successful, popular etc. To be truly free & to fully enjoy you life, don't compare yourself to others. Live your own life. You have your own uniqueness & special talents. Even though someone else may be rich or appear to be successful, they may (for example) have extreme difficulties with relationships, being a good parent, or even the ability to deal with stress. So what one sees on the outside can be completely different to what that person really is like on the inside. Explore your own strengths & build on those. Life is what you make of it. Why waste it comparing yourself to others.
All the best.
2006-10-09 12:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will! You know that. You're just looking for a guy that you absolutely love, you'll see. Is there anybody that you have a crush on right now? Take a chance, what's the worst that can happen? Go, take a risk. You're single, attractive and men will love to meet you when you open up, really!
2006-10-09 12:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by chaos causer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop beating yourself up, learn to love yourself, you have a lot to be grateful for, but you are not realizing it,Thank God for what you do have, it could be worst. In do time you too will have everything, so be positive, do not be envious of what your friends have. And read books or tapes on self esteem, it is going to be alright, just try and take care of yourself!
2006-10-09 12:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one has periods of life like this-it can often be down to a teporary loss of self-esteem.Pop down to your liabrary or bookshop and pick up a book.Bit boring answer but you can make yourself feel a hell of a lot better in a couple of days.Promise!
2006-10-09 12:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by yellowpalma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wish your life away. Everything comes to those who wait. And you'll probably find that it was worth the wait
2006-10-09 12:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Warlock Fiend 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way with romance...but other things are working out...school is going ok, i have a decent job...some people get things at different times....the more you dwell over it, the longer it will take...
so where do you live, wanna go out friday night? jk..what are the chances we live near each other...:)
2006-10-09 12:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by redims81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens eventually. but sometimes you gotta help it along. i used to live in st louis and life just wasnt that great. i moved 700 miles away found new friends and hobbies and now my life is much, much better.
2006-10-09 12:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by notsoperfectgentleman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋