well my best friend and i have had a bunch of little fights in the past but none have lasted longer than a week...but 7 months ago another one of my friends lied to me about my best friend and told me something that my best friend wanted to do but it turns out my friend made it more dramatic than it really was on purpose, so naturally i got worried and asked an adult i trusted for advice about it anonomysly and my best friend found out and got really mad...she told me that it would take her a while to get over it and that she needed her time and space. Well for the first like 3 months of this fight i tried everything i could think of to fix the friendship but they all ended up making everything worse..she doesnt talk to me anymore and wont even make eye contact, but the thing is we have all the same friends and a ton of classes together, and its really awkward cause now she just acts like i dont exist and like she doesnt even know me. i really dont know what to do about it....
2006-10-09 12:22:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the lessons we learn in life will only make us stronger... let this be a lesson to you......
Best of luck getting back together........
2006-10-09 12:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Write her a letter explaining why you want your friendship to continue. Tell her you are sorry for the things you've done in the past. Invite her to lunch or starbucks after school... if she still doesn't want to talk to you, then I am afraid you need to move on... get a life that doesn't involve her, and be a good friend to the NEXT person that comes along. Learn from your mistakes.
2006-10-09 19:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, If you haven't appoligized, that is number one. Loosing someone's trust and trying to get it back is very difficult, but if she doesn't want to be friends with you any more there isn't much you can do, except tell her you are sorry and that when she is ready you will be there. And pray for God to help out. Ask Him to help her understand that you only had her best interest at heart and wanted to make sure she was okay. That's what's friends are for. And pray that God helps you with your feelings about it also. Good luck.
2006-10-09 19:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by clsmlbkl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push it if she comes around fine, if she doesn't then she wasn't really a friend any way. If she didn't have all these other girls around her she wouldn't act this way. Just give her some space and ignore her like she ignores you and maybe she will come around, maybe she just wants you to beg her. Just continue to hang out with the other girls and have a good time.
2006-10-09 19:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try to get your other friends to explain it to her or you could try writing a letter. If she doesn't try and let you fix the problem there is nothing you can do. Try your best to fix it, if she won't cooperate with you then try to move on. Good luck
2006-10-09 19:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by cutie447_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know for your own sanity sake, you may have to move on, one day she may come around, but I think it is unfair for you to expect more, if it happens, it happens. Who knows where peoples heads are at, these days? I think it is putting a lot of pressure on you, I want you to relax, and breath, find a new set of friends, then she will come around.
2006-10-09 19:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off im really sry to hear that... and second i had this friendship to and umm now me and the girl arent friends still so i think your doomed! or you could have one of your friends talk to her... and see if she would at least let you explain... but never say sry because if you were turely sry you wouldnt have done it in the first place!!!! good luck!
2006-10-09 19:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may seem hard and complicated at first but just let it be. Live up to the situation. The past has come and left. You can't change it. and it's her loss.
2006-10-09 19:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her the truth! Tell her it was your friend's fault! If she won't listen, make her listen! It will all pay in the end! you need this friendship or your life and hers will be miseralbe!
2006-10-09 19:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by mysteriousmystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T THINK SHE STILL WANTS YOU TO BE HER BEST FRIEND, JUST FIND ANOTHER FRIEND TO BE YOUR BEST FRIEND AND WHEN TIME COME THAT SHE WANTS TO BE YOUR FRIEND AGAIN THEN TELL HER OKAY BUT IT WILL JUST BE FRIENDS, NOT BEST ANYMORE UNTIL IT AGAIN DEVELOP INTO BETTER RELATIONS. LEARN FROM MISTAKES. THAT HOW LIFE IS INCLUDDING FRIENDSHIP!
2006-10-09 19:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young girls you very petty...don't worry about it, you don't need her. I know you're uncomfotable, but just try to move on - ignore her also, but don't be petty yourself - just act like she's a stranger.
2006-10-09 19:26:56 · answer #11 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋