Do you believe some people have it in them to commit adultery while others do not. I recently divorced my husband - I found out he was having an affair. This was his second time. I would not or could not cheat. I even waited until out divorce was final before i started dating even though I had the opportunity. Why do some of us feel so strongly about adultery while other have no problems with it? Any suggestions?
2006-10-09 12:14:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that is somethjng i have always tried to figure out.I think some people are so insecure about themselves they have to think that other people still want them.I have had quite afew chances to cheat but couldnt but my wife always had to know other guys thought she was hot and in the end left with someone she had affair with
2006-10-09 18:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a very similar situation.My ex-husband had a child with his lover. My divorce was finalized in Aug. 2006. I can't even think about dating yet. I could have strayed had I been weak but marriage was & is sacred to me. I guess some people have no concept of honesty, responsibility or respect for others. It's sad really, they will never find true love. I could never hurt another the way he hurt me. It is too painful.
2006-10-09 20:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that some people are more inclined to deceive others, in general. Adultery is just a form of deception. I don't think anyone knows what brings about certain character traits, if it's rooted in genetics, upbringing, previous experiences, whatnot. But I do think that lying comes more naturally to some people than others.
2006-10-09 19:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh I know some people have it in them while others do not I know in my heart I could never cheat on my husband I love him I cherish him and I want the best for him and I dont beileve he could ever cheat on me he has the sweetest heart I have ever known but while I was in the dating world ( thank God Im out of that ) I had a boyfriend who cheated on me everytime he had a chance! he was dirt! So guys can be cute and everything you want on the outside but dirt on the inside ( I dont like dirt )
And this boyfriend was dirt I feel sorry for any women that would have to go though with affairs and sorry to hear about yours!
2006-10-09 19:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think it has to do with the way you were raised and your personality! I know that I could NEVER cheat. Even if my husband did it to me I just couldn't bring myself to do it! But I do know some people who have cheated on their spouse. They act like they are sorry for it but like it's not that big of a deal! I don't understand it either! It's got to be something to do with the way someone was raised and their personality! Good luck with everything!
2006-10-09 19:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by cutie447_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ones that don't care about adultery have the brains of a pigeon & only care about themselves. Adultery is one of the most hurtful things you can do to a person besides murder them.
2006-10-09 19:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by maggie w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are very old fashion,its not a bad thing it just means that you have to feel secure in a relationship to be able to be intimate,I wish all of us could be more like you. dont change your husband doenst know that someday he is going to wish the security that he lost with you.I wish the best for you and that you can find happiness with someone with such high moral expectations because you deserve someone honest.God bless you.
2006-10-09 20:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think some people have such little regard for other peoples feelings. He obviously was selfish, and only cared about himself. You're so much better without the loser. I hope you find a good, and faithful man. Good luck ~~~
2006-10-09 19:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember in high school..."once a player always a player". that is true. once you have played or cheated on someone it just gets easier and easier. it is an act thats as hard as smoking to cheat. just me i know. it takes will power to do. and when someone gets back into a hard spot some will start smoking again. or in your husbands case start cheating again.
2006-10-09 19:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by notsoperfectgentleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who cheat are usually self centered, ego hungry people who don't really care if they hurt anyone. It really gives others a bad rap when it comes to being able to trust again. Good luck with your future...stay strong!
2006-10-09 19:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋