How many days a week? And for how long? I want to see how everyone else does it before I give an answer to my daughter. I feel weekends are enough. SHe wants to see him weekdays from 5pm till 9pm, and then on the weekends all day until midnight.... UGH..........
2006-10-09 12:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by barbaradjt 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At 15, I agree with you...providing her grades are good and she does her chores around the house without an argument...in other words...how is she at taking care of her present responsibilities.
2006-10-09 12:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be hard, i have a 15 year old daughter too, but because I'm in hawaii and the island is so small she really doesn't get into boy stuff yet, but its still my greatest fear, at 15 i was pregnant and married .I'm 33 now and when think back once i had a bf i knew or at least i thought i knew what was right for me, if my parents said no it meant yes to me and i would do it anyways. I really wish i would have listened to my mom and take things slower. At 15 you think you know it all , you feel your old enough to do whatever you want and you most definitely think you know what love is, but you dont. I look at my 15 year old and think wow at this age i was pregnant and married, where did my childhood go, my friends, my freedom to explore the world. I stress that to my kids everyday. If your daughter is already sexually active then it will be hard to say "no you cant go out" and i have a feeling your trying work with her so you both still keep an open relationship as mother and daughter and that's good. How about suggesting he come over once in awhile instead of she going over all the time. Tell her you love her and you want her to be happy but she needs to make you happy as well and that she needs to meet you half way, its a give and take situation. I wish you all the best, take care.email me at any time ...islegirl7@yahoo.com *smiles*
2006-10-09 12:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by TINA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the daughter. Is she doing well in school? Helping out around the house? Being respectful of all other house rules and your authority as a parent?
I never set specific time restrictions for my girls because I don't want them just leaving the house and saying "I'll be back before midnight". It was always on a case-by-case basis. You're going to a movie? Be back by 10:00. Disneyland? It closes at midnight? Be back by 1:00 am. You have a large project due at school? Sorry. No boyfriend this week.
This will make your daughter aware that this guy isn't the only thing going on in her life and it will teach her how to manage her time wisely.
2006-10-09 12:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jen H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 16 year old still at home (my 20 and 18 yr old daughters and I have been through this as well) and I usually try to keep things to just the weekends as well. Sometimes if it is the middle of the week and her grade are good and she doesn't have any homework, he may come over for dinner and a movie. At that age, I just don't think that they need to be up eachother's tails that much. After all, they do see eachother at school as well. Trust your instincts and be confident that you are making the right decision concerning this. It doesn't make you a bad parent, so don't let her wear ya down...good luck!
2006-10-09 12:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe an hr a day if her grades are good.. and as long as she is followin the rules i see no harm in it.
heres my house rules on this (3 teenagers age 14,15,16 here)
1. good grades -u can have ur date over for an hr a day wkdays
2. weekends - between the hrs of 10am-6pm
3. all doors stay open in the house.
4. when outside u stay in view now garages..or hiding
5. games on wkends only if ur grades r good.
6. any broken rules is grounds for lockdown..no see, no go, no way
7. we have no secrets..i may not like what u say or have done but i cant help u if i dont know what it is. so no secrets. what ever it is no matta how bad I will support n help u get thru it the correct way.
good luck
and the rules in my house have yet to be broken ..i hope she is on birthcontrol..she should be bc no matta what u do she will have sex ..even if u dont let her out..they always find a way..so get her on bc and educate her ..and make sure she has condoms..let her know the good n bad..and on top of that..tell her u are not given her permission to do it..u just dont want her to be stupid and if she does become pregnant. in this day n age aint no reason for them to be.
2006-10-09 12:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let my daughters boy friend come over once a week night for about 2 to 3 hours. And on the weekend, it was usually on Sundays after her chores and homework was finished.
They have a phone to talk and a computer to write to each other during the rest of the time. But I think it also depends on how well you trust your daughter and the boyfriend.
2006-10-09 12:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 15, my mother was super strict! Phone calls were monitored (yes, believe it), and I could only see my boyfriend(s), when I went to my cousins house in Long Island or Manhattan.
So, try and accomodate her, but don't be too strict, because she will rebel. Why not invite her boyfriend over and allow them to watch tv in the LIVINGROOM. Or, allow her to invite her girls over and each girl invites their boyfriends over. That way, you KNOW where your daughter is at, and you know what she is DOING. Make it fun...have movies, popcorn, and even a small party afterwards?
You can't control it beyond this, just pray you raised her well enough to make smart decisions. Oh, and not sure if she is sexually active, but just in case, please have her Gyn give her birth control. She may not be having sex, but let's be real here...boys try VERY hard to get what they want.
But the simple fact that you asked this question tells me that you are a good mom and care very much for her. She will value you. :-)
2006-10-11 07:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Just a Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should let her spend time with her boyfriend during the weekdays for 2 to 3 hours and on the weekends she can spend the day with him until maybe 10pm... it was great for me....
2006-10-09 12:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by ~*808 LOVE*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how sensable she is i think she should be bac home till 7 at night every day the rest is up to her. Studies shouldnt be forgoten
2006-10-09 12:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by coolgirljuhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT RESTRICT HER! LET HER DO WHAT SHE BELIEVES IS RIGHT,THEN YOU WILL BE ABLE TO KNOW ALL HER PROBLEMS BECAUSE SHE WILL TRUST YOU.
BY RESTRICTING HER SHE WILL BE MORE AND MORE AGRESSIVE AND SHE WILL LIE TO YOU.
MAYBE SHE WILL SHE HIM AT THE BEGINING 7 DAYS A WEEK BUT LATER SHE WILL GET BORED
2006-10-09 12:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by Thanos S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋