My wife and I have been together for 5 years, and she has wanted a baby for about 2 years now. About a year ago we decided to plan for our first baby, we bought safe cars, paid off all our debt, traveled, did home improvements, etc. We decided to start in January 2007 because our house will be paid off in August 2007 and we will have plenty of money for a baby.
My wife has been getting more anxious lately about trying for a baby. We have 3 more months before our “starting” date and she is getting moody with me because she feels she has been waiting for years and the last few months have been torture for her. Two of her friends (who are have been with their boyfriends for less than 2 years) are pregnant, so now she is more upset then ever.
How do I get her to be patient for the last 3 months? I am excited too, but she is way anxious to start and I feel bad for telling her no, but we need to wait until January. I want all my ducks in a row before we start trying!
Help me!
2006-10-09 12:13:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's aggravating to me that you're making her wait so long. Just go a head and start trying now. Why are you waiting? It's not like she's getting any younger you know.
2006-10-09 15:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by danikatspecial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good, and loving couple who have done everything right to start and plan for a baby. In a sense, it's a good thing, because there will be less stress to do with money issues when a baby comes along.
However, you can't plan too much when it comes to babies. If you try to make EVERYTHING perfect before the baby you may never be satisfied or ready to start your family. Who cares if you're 3 months ahead of schedule....a baby takes 9 months before it's born anyways, so what's the big deal in starting early? If you both want a baby, then just let it happen....you are stable enough in your relationship and financially! Go for it.
2006-10-09 12:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW 2 months, Just have a baby if you love her a baby will just be great no matter how much money you have love comes first didn't you see the movie "Click" the guy was more concerned about the money more than the family so he ended up losing them but it was just a dream.
2006-10-09 13:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by chilingurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, last 3 months won't make a difference. She may not even get pregnant right away. Your ducks will be in a row soon enough.
2006-10-09 12:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I can understand her being impatient, though. I'm glad I'm not in her shoes... I would have left you long time ago and find someone else who isn't such an extreme planner. Planning is good, but you are way too pedantic about this matter.
2006-10-09 12:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on man! Give it up! Go for it! Give that girl some 'relief' before she finds some stud to do it for you! Jeez!
2006-10-09 12:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sugar, there is nothing you can do. there is nothing she can do either. trust me, she cannot help herself. stick to your guns if that's your plan, but just understand that her clock is ticking and she's gonna be crazy till she gets pregnant. (and after)
2006-10-09 12:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋