However, we've just built a house next to his parents' and his 21 year old daughter just moved in with us. I feel squished. Everyone is breathing down my neck, bossing me around, and nothing I do is good enough. He is a truck driver so he is not here to see what is happening, but I know he would not stand for it. If I stand my ground I'm always in the wrong so I gave up fighting and give in. Advice please! I don't want to run and tell.
2006-10-09 12:03:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would kick her ***
2006-10-09 12:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen i am 23 & married, i lived with my in laws the first year of my marriage let me tell u i had to stand my ground. nothin isnt good enough for them but u got to let them know u r an adult and the wife & they need to respect u & respect the way u do ur thing as an individual! you have to tell your husband whats goin on this is not a childish game u're a big woman he needs to help u with this as their his relations. Let me tell u if u two r really in love u both will resolve this situation with ease. Good luck :)
2006-10-09 19:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by SUGIE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his daughter should live on her own or at least somewhere else, maybe even with her grand parents next door. If she is 21 then she does not need to live with you. I am assuming that she is the biggest problem. And tell your husband what is going on !!!!
2006-10-09 19:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by hawkesnest 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband, Your home... How can you be wrong if it is in your home? Your husband and you set the rules for your home. Now if baby girl doesn't like it. Well, then you say, "I'm sorry that's the way your father and I see it in this house. I'm not your mother and I'm not going to try and be her. You don't have to do it OUR way in your mother's home. You do have to do it when you're under this roof. If you don't like the rules, take it up with your father."
Your husband should handle his daughter. He should have a long sit down talk with her and say, "She's not your mother, but she's my wife. She is in charge of my home when I'm not here. I love you, but I'm married to this woman. In this house, she's doing what we've agreed to as the HOUSE RULES."
So if you're over at your in law's home. You show respect for whatever they say. If they say, "Don't put your feet on the couch... Then be respectful.. They have nothing to complain about you."
Their turf, their rules. Your turf, your rules. That's the way it is.
2006-10-09 19:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by James B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well i may not no much but just because u guys have an age different don't matter but if u love him and he's Wat u want stand up 4 your self and shoe his parents and his daughter that they are not going 2 run u away because u really love this man and u want 2 be wit.
2006-10-09 19:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take advantage of you once, shame on them. Take advantage of you twice, shame on you. Tell that 21 y/o to get a good job and go rent her own place, and to quit sponging of you and your generous personality. Either charge her a hefty rent to compensate for the costs she creates or move her out. You don't owe her a damned thing. No one should be telling you what to do in your own house. That's your turf....protect it!
2006-10-09 19:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground with them. Be assertive, with a smile, but never aggressive. Tell your husband what's going on. Good luck.
2006-10-09 19:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by missouri bulldog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk to ur husband and ur stepdaughter. let them no how u feel if they cant respect that than u need to talk to ur husband and u might need to kick his daughter out of ur house since she is 21 and should be on her own anyway. i no my stepmom wouldnt let me treat her that way so dont let ur step dauter treat u that way either. Good Luck!
2006-10-09 19:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Katlyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so stand ur ground..why in the hell would u back down..that is ur house.. no matta what..if they dont like it then tell them to leave. that u dont and wont put up with it. so what ppl get mad at u ..so what they get their feelings hurt.. if they dont like it then let them go live back where they was b4. so what if they dont like u..so what its his parents his child or god ole mighty(ok not god but) hope u get the point. in life not everyone is gonna like u and vise versa..but u have control over who u let effect ur life, ur peace, ur harmony ..so do something bout it. and if ur man dont like it tuff ..tell him what is going on n that u wont stand for it.
2006-10-09 19:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she 21 she needs to get her own place in these situations you do run the risk of being the bad guy but tell him whats going on and how it makes you feel if he wants to help her out fine help her into her own place.
2006-10-09 19:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up fighting, make a stand for what is rightfully yours, and his daughter should respect you in your own home.
2006-10-09 19:06:07 · answer #11 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋