Am I wrong?

Question

I had an argument with my boyfriend of 9 yrs. here it is...
I requested an change of shift on weds. to 7-3:45. so that I could pick the kids up and get to my class on time normally I'm rushing. I did this and on Tues. night I told him that I had a new work schedule on wed. from 7-345. he got so angry saying that I should have asked him first and that he ha meetings to prepare for on that day. And he is not talking to me saying that I owe him an apology because I am wrong for not asking if it was okay. it has now been a week and he still isn't speaking to me. I don't feel like I did anything wrong do you? or should I apologize? be truthful. I know this is so juvenile.

Answer 1

wow... he seems like he is blowing this out of proportion. Tell him that you thought you were making a desicion based upon the best intrest of the childern and yourself. I can't see WTF that would have to do with his "meeting" anyways. If he doesnt stop crying offer him a box of kleenex and tell him it would be nice if he discussed this "meeting" with him before he took up all your precious time bitchin like a baby!

Answer 2

Honestly, you did nothing wrong! Your first priority should be the kids! And if it helps you from being so stressed out, he should be happy for you!
If you are tired of fighting (well, not speaking to each other) then you should apologize. You didn't do anything wrong but if it makes everything okay between you there's no reason to drag it out! It sounds like he might not give in until you do. I have this horrible habit of apologizing even when it's not my fault just so I won't fight with my husband! The way I look at it is ... whatever works, use it! It really your choice whether you want to give in or not because you didn't do anything wrong!
You might also want to look at the way he's been acting before this happened. I don't know what you guys' relationship is like but there could be more to it and he's just using the new schedule for an excuse to end it. I hope that isn't the case but you need to at least consider it! Good luck with everything and be strong!

Answer 3

Hmm. Look, he is obviesly overreacting. And he should apologize to you ! But, I'm not worried who's going to apologize to who. If I was you, I would concentrate on his overreaction. Why he did it? usually people do that when they're hiding something. Please pay some attention. Maybe he did something on wednesday when you were on work, and he can't do it anymore.... I really hope I'm wrong.
On the other hand, maybe he's really in a jam with his work, so this new schedule doesn't suit him. He has a reason to be UPSET, not possesed. And you really should ask him first. But now he needs to apologize to you, he shouldn't stress you this much when we're living in a world where stress is our biggest enemy (that's why we keep it close to ourselves, you know - keep your friends close,and enemies closer ;)))) LOL). Let him know that you are not a stone and that you need your man. Show him how much he hurts you with his distance...
I hope that you two will work out this problems. What doesn't kill you, it will only make you stronger!

Answer 4

no he should be apologizing to you for making such an issue into a big one.after all is'nt you juggling your schedule for the childrens sake and you getting your classes in to be on time,that can be so hectic as it is and now hubby carrying a grudge ,well men usually take a little time to grow up ,so he'll come around .he should be lucky thats all he has to worry about (his meeting) what about mom trying to get things together and tryin to make class on time,he's being a bit selfish i think.don;t give in he obviously can't see how hard it is so let him walk in your shoes for a week,then he'll understand why mom did what she had to do

let him sweat it out

Answer 5

You asked...first of all apologize for not discussing this with him. Next, you need to kick him to the curb, if he doesn't want to marry you. Third you are the mother of his kids, and being a provider for them as well. He needs to check with you on occasions, to see if he could help out a little bit more. Fourth, he knows that you have his beloved children and if he is going to be that childish about you wanting to better your life for his children and for you to be less dependent on him, F#CK HIM! F#CK HIM WITH NO VASELINE, ALL UP HIS @$$! He knows, that he should not leave you alone to fend for you and HIS children.

Answer 6

Some man are so controlling, and if they did not make the arrangements then you should not do it. Bull! You did what you needed to do, to take care of your business the best way, that you know how. Why! do they always think they have to be in control. To pacify him (smile) say sorry, and be cracking up all the while!

Answer 7

If he was in some way dependent on your schedule staying as it was and you knew this when you changed it, then you should have consulted him. This is just simple politeness. However, I think he is over-reacting. He is behaving as if you did this deliberately to ruin his life. Tell him you're sorry and you can both move on.

Answer 8

he is being juvenile...is him working more important then both of your incomes? if he is just preparing...he can learn to do multitasks....my dad used to have a full time job while moonlighting at the tracks on weekends and was a full time student and had 2 kids to care for alone...and he did it fine...so he shouldn't complain

Answer 9

If your changing schedules put him in the "baby sitting" position, you should have asked first. If you don't want to ask or don't have the opportunity, then You should have arrainged childcare. If that is not the issue, then He is being the baby.

Answer 10

I don't think you are wrong at all. He is just trippin. You have to do what you have to do that is easier for you. Unless you guys live together than I think you are wrong. You should communicate every little detail to your boyfriend. Remember Communication is the Key to great relationship!^_^