My BF of 3 years was drinking and arguing with me. He was really mad at me and said some really hurtful things. He told me " I can look at you naked all day and its not doing anything for me" and "I would rather beat of to a porn than F*Ck you" There was a lot more that he said to me that really crushed my self esteem. Once he seen how hurt I was over it he said that he was just mad and drunk. He didn't mean it. He just wanted to get to me. Well now that is all I think about. I never want him to see me naked again and I am still really upset about it. Do you think I am over reacting or do you think he ment it???? I am going to leave him over making me feel like this. So Please tell me if I am over reacting.
2006-10-09 11:56:30 · 15 answers · asked by HappyMama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My honest opinion is this:
He probably was drinking to much and didn't really mean all that he said, but I would be very concerned about the remarks regardless.
It sounds to me like he has more issues than just seeing you naked.
I can also say this with full confidence, there are very few (if any)
women out there that are not attractive to any male when they are naked.
The womans naked body is a sight to behold in all its glory. The seductive curves, the soft flowing hair, the warmth in a womans smile who has made herself so vunerable by shedding her clothes... what's not love about that? You my dear are a beautiful flower in blossom when you reveal yourself to a man.
Trust me on this one.
I would suggest you find some one who truly does appreciate you for all you have to offer, body included!
You should be respected, not rejected. The hurtful comments of one man can ruin a girls image forever and he should not be forgiven for that.
2006-10-09 12:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by KIRRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are mean things that he said. Dumping him is an option but really depends if that is what you want to do. Have you tried to talk to him and explain how hurtful he was...some people don't realize what they done. Sometimes it's just a communications gap and a few conversations here and there will patch things up. I think if you really care, you would just try and try to work things out until you try so many times and you just don't think it's worth it then just dump him. You never know, maybe after sometime apart, he realized his loss and comes back to you then the ball's on your court.
2006-10-09 19:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not over reacting. He wasn't all that drunk if he cared that he upset you, which means that he deliberately said things that he knew would hurt you. It doesn't mean they are true, just that he knew that those words would inflict the most long term pain on you. You should leave him and never look back or think about him again.
2006-10-09 19:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know sometime when a man was drunk all his pains, sorrows AND WHATS INSIDE HIS MIND AND HEART where cast out..but evevn he meant it or not..you need to dump him..coz he already said that to you and really affects you so much..
dont be afraid to let him go..too much boys out there that deserves to have you..
and this point..show your guy that you are not like that what he is saying ar said when he was drunk..
dont be so weak, be strong, fight!!
2006-10-09 19:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're overacting at all. Whether he meant it or not -- he still said it and that is NOT okay. I know how you feel, but 'drunk' is not an excuse to be hurtful.
2006-10-09 18:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a drinking problem, he will be saying things ike that alot. I would send him to the curb and have some other girl have him.
2006-10-09 19:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by Skittles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right to be upset...there are certain things you don't say to people and we have to take responsibility for our act.....but Remember, we are humans, we make mistakes........I know it's hard....but give him another chance...if he gets drunk again and play mean............Find yourself somebody else.........
2006-10-09 19:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i want you to know that i was alreadt with him and he said i was better than you so you better go out and get some batteries.
2006-10-09 19:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by fa0099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. he has no respect for you. that's a lame excuse and you don't deserve a guy like that. get rid of him. he doesn't deserve you.
2006-10-09 18:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he really meant it because when there drunk they dont lie
2006-10-09 19:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋