2006-10-09 11:50:02 · 7 answers · asked by justsomedumbgirl 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
wow that was helpfum thanks ahole
yeah i know im a pervert thanks
2006-10-09 11:59:15 · update #1
That is woman's way of avoiding any guilt she may feel for having sexual impulses or desires--- if sex can be acted out or can occur, but NOT at HER FAULT< then it is "okay" to feel sexual or have sex, so to speak.
it is a menatl defense mechanism against the shame a woman pins to sexual feelings; if she feels it is bad, shameful, dirty etc to feel as she does, she can escape the guilt by 'blaming the man', ie, playing the innocent.
Also, it is part of a more natural course that the woman should be 'the hunted' and the man 'the hunter'- look at nature. All animals follow this; the male courts and hunts and the woman is cooed, swayed, in a sense- defeated. Her defenses are worn down and she is overcome.
So it's part totally natural innocence, another part shame for 'not being so innocent' by actually feeling sexual in the first place....
2006-10-09 14:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Yentl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of fantasy is more common than we think. For most it's a way to overcome many possible mental objections they may have. This way they can enjoy the pleasure of the sexual act without willingly accept it.
Fortunately, most understand that this is just a fantasy and that real life rape is almost always excruciatingly unpleasant, so be careful.
Note: From my experience, this kind of fantasy can reflect a serious personality disorder, possibly borderline disorder. It may be a good thing to consult if it has ever been suggested by anyone you know personally.
2006-10-09 23:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by juliepelletier 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are activities of the sub-conscience. Lots of people act out their fantasies, but in a consensual manner. Maybe give that a try with a willing partner. Just be safe and use code words for asking your partner to back down.
2006-10-09 19:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that you struggle with the desire to have sex? Do you possibly think it is wrong? If so, then maybe the rape takes away your decision making and therefore, you didn't make a bad choice. You had no choice. It was made for you.
2006-10-10 20:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is a natural human instinct. Nature intended the stronger male to hold down the weaker female to perform intercourse. The reason for this is natural selection. The stronger males are able to fight off the weaker males to take their woman and to hold down their woman to spread their alpha-male seed. However, in modern times, it is not an acceptable practice (and aren't we all glad for that!) and as such it is suppressed in our minds and only comes out in dreams.
2006-10-10 10:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by ben_j_mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is something to bring up the next time you're in therapy.
2006-10-09 18:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your sick
2006-10-09 23:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sonny 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋