my friend has lots of problems and i know she cuts and i want to get her help with out an adult finding out that she cuts?!?!?!?
2006-10-09 11:47:36 · 8 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
b/c i really want to help her but i don't want to get her in to trouble b/c her parents are really strict and i don't want to get her in trouble but i want to help
2006-10-09 12:09:36 · update #1
You would be a good friend to her if you let her parents know, or tell yours and have them contact hers. You are not doing your friend any favour at all by keeping this quiet. It is too important, she is too sick and her life is in danger. That's too much for just a friend to handle; she needs medical and professional help. Please do this. Just so you know, she is cutting as a cry for help and attention. Ultimately, she just needs new tools to handle things in her life.
2006-10-09 11:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if they are under the age of 18 there is noone who can treat her without parents prior authorizationn to getting treatment. People who are cutting - (self cutters) What she is doing is slowly killing herself and is very cureable with treatment. Quite often when one is a self cutter it means they have anger management problems and usually self inflicts themseves with pain - someone who doesn't do this to themselves it would be painful. But the person sho is doing it doesn't experience the pain reason being is because you don't feel when you are angry, actually doing this often makes people with this feel relieved from the anger experienced that causes the cutting in the first place. This also is normally performed when the person is left alone. This allows their mind to wonder and recognize the things in her life that angers her which leads to further cutting. If you tell her parents then most likely she is going to be really angry with you. Keep in mind that without professional treatment she or you are not going to be able to help her and she will end up with a much larger problem. She can end up cutting to deep and hit her vein which can be very fatal. Even if you tell her parents and she gets mad at you, you might feel upset because she is mad at you but you should feel great to know you are saving her life and most likely once she is better she won't be mad anymore and will probably thank you for being such a great friend to care about her well being even if the outcome means you might lose a friend. To me you sound like a very selfLESS person and a very good friend!
2006-10-09 19:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by mom_in_love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants the attention, its a cry for help. Tell everyone who cares. The next step is suicide. TEll everyone before its too late. Don't let her be a statistic. Jesus If your in high school you don't even know what real problems are.
2006-10-09 18:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by brooklyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not possible...cutting is a serious illness of the mental state...if i cut myself it was bc at least that way i am in control.......it distracted me from heartache, saddness and all things that i couldnt control and would effect me in a bad way...its a resort i took instead of boxing or running....instead i hid it in the back of my head and cut as deep as i wanted as hard or as long......depending on the heartache...... but i definently couldn't of stopped with out all the support i needed to realize i wasn't in control of what i wouldve caused in the long run..... and what i couldve done, i didn't want to kill myself, just to be in control and distract myself from other pains. calla support group for it, and maybe her parents don't have to know about that...they have support groups in most places....and u can be like her partner that she runs to when she feels the need to do it, good luck
2006-10-09 18:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Convince her that it is stupid and she is hurting herself. Have her talk to someone like a counselor something and have her get her feelings out that way. I will try to e-mail you some sources after this.
2006-10-09 19:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully? you cant really get them to stop ... they have to learn to on their own ... believe me im a sober cutter myself.. none of my friends even adults could get me to stop ... they talked until thier faces were blue and i never cared... but ... i figured it out ... i take my stess and anger out on something else .. .. i love to dance and sing and i will do it for hours until i get that same feeling i did when i wouls cut myself... .so its up to her but if things do get worse tell an adult ... or else she may cut to deep...
2006-10-09 18:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by baby_ashes_10 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop shes gonna hurt her self even more
2006-10-09 19:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Uckermann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no real way 2 stp her without an adult. i no its hard to tell but u hav 2...she can die from it, if shes cutting hard...he needs hlp, like a depression center or sumthin, thts wut id do
2006-10-09 19:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by [dANiiE♥♫]™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋