Have you ever poured you heart out in a note to a lost love thinking you could convince them to return?

Question

I think we all have. Did it work? If it did, how long did it last?

Answer 1

Definitely.

He was hurt.....badly. And the thing was that I knew him so well that I had no doubt in my mind how he had misinterpreted what had happened. I knew that if I could have a change to talk to him I could straighten out the whole misconception and we'd be ok. But he would have nothing to do with me. I'd call and he'd let it ring and ring and ring. I'd stop by.........and he'd act as if he weren't home. We both were the most stubborn two people you've ever met. He would get in his head that something was a certain way because it was "easier" to justify things that way than to reason through the truth.

I was so frustrated. Mostly because I knew that his judgement was unjust. I so needed to convey the truth to him .........if he'd only give me a chance.

So I sat down and hand wrote a letter. Not an email.......but a letter. Stamps and all. (yes........quite a foreign concept these days) When I'm not under pressure, I can sit and write for hours and all my feelings and ideas just flow out. And somehow they usually find their way into a semi coherent form that makes sense. By the time I was done.......I think hours had passed......and I had so many pages that I had to pay extra postage.

But it was worth it. Without the pressure of having to see me face to face......he could sit and read my thoughts........hear my views...... feel my emotion. He later told me that the fact it was hand written was what made all the difference in the world. That it was personal.......it was "me.'

The letter opened the door back up for us to talk again. He had a better understanding of me.......and I of him. We continued with this "understanding" for another couple of months. But sometimes, scars are just too deep. We parted soon after.

But it did show me that time...patience and truth in words can open the lines up for understanding. And something tells me......to this day......he still has that letter.

Answer 2

Yes I have and I do not recommend that at all. When you put something in writing it is permanent and can not be retrieved. Some times we say things when distressed that would be better unsaid or at least better not reduced to writing.

If one just must express their loss then write it all out and let it sit for a week or so. The writing is good therapy and the week's wait probably will produce a totally different outlook.

All I ended up doing was making myself look silly and pathetic. Much better to stand tall and wait opportunity to have your say when you control the situation. Writing to the lost love puts them in control and that is a hugh mistake.

Answer 3

Yes, but it was in verbal form and not letter form. I poured my heart out asking him to reconsider, what this would do to our family breakup, the children, etc.
I hate to say this but I got down on my knees and begged. Not a pretty sight. I humiliated myself for nothing.
Of course he felt terrible when I did that, but that did not change his mind. It was made up.

Answer 4

Never tried it. Not even on an unlost love. I have a lid like a pepper shaker. You just get a little at a time even if you shake it a lot.

Answer 5

yes i did...i waited like a week after we broke up and then wrote a long two page letter and im glad i did it because that letter made us come together and work out the issue we had...now we're engaged and been together 3 years after the letter

Answer 6

When I was but a lad.
Folks said I must be mad,
'Cause I would never let a fire die
Down on my knees
Smoke in my eye
The memory of the flame in the embers.
Blowing in vain at it
Blowing in pain at it
Going insane.
What did I learn?
Sometimes there's nothing left to burn
Sometimes there's nothing left to burn
Sometimes there's nothing left to burn

Answer 7

Nope... I don't have any loves in my life... and I don't like pouring my heart for anybody.
Plus, I couldn't trust anybody with such raw thoughts.

Answer 8

my husband did....and he fell asleep while writing it. (we weren't married at the time....we had "broken up"), he was sharing an apartment w/a good friend of mine, and he and i were still friends after our breakup. i went over to their apartment one night, and my one friend was out, but my hubby was home. i noticed my name on a piece of paper on a table and started reading what turned out to be kind of a journal entry type writing, (he doesn't keep a journal but he needed to write about loosing me as a girl friend he said.) so i confronted him about it, and he told me to read all of it.
i was crying by the end of it and we got back together. that was 8 yrs ago. we've been married for almost 6. :)

Answer 9

Never, ever, put that in writing.
It could be used a s future blackmail material.

Answer 10

yes and it worked for about a year