How to tell a roomate...?

Question

My husband and I live with my husbands best friend and his girlfriend and it isn't so bad some days but others it is horrible. My husband's best friend's girlfriend is always smoking in the house and it is the lease that we have says that is not allowed. how do i tell her that she needs to knock it off or get out. I have told her boyfriend many times to tell her to stop it cuz the land lord works next door and i don't want him to see her and kick us out.

How to i tell her to stop it or get out without causing a big fight between my husband and his friend. they have been friends for longer than we have been married.

Answer 1

I think it all depends who is the lease holder. if it is your husband then if he doesn't want the lease broken and you guys have to pack up and move, then it should be him to tell her,It is inconsiderate of this girl and you could be held accountable for cleaning charges for the landlord for bringing the house back to non smoking standards, this might include new carpets in all the rooms new paint on all the walls ceilings ,new window coverings, just to name a few, your friend is putting you in huge jeopardy by her selfishness. You need to have some thing done immediately as to get rid of the smoke damage even from one cigarette take s at least 3 months and still there is the smoke stains , this is not a silly thing , you and your husband could end up paying for years on this if the landlord sues you

Answer 2

Easy, go talk to her and tell her calmly yourself.

If she gets mad who cares? Life comes with rules and if she can't deal with it then she can go buy her own house. Other people live in the house and the land lord made the rules for a reason.

If the boyfriend gets mad at your husband he isn't a real friend. But you won't have to worry about that if you ask the girlfriend politely.

Answer 3

I dont know if thier really is too nice of a way of putting that u might just have to be up front and honset.