I feel like he can do much more around the house when asked. When I do ask him he gets all "crazy" with me. He yells at me and our kids all the time for little small things. We both work so I do almost all the chores and cooking. I also need some time to chill to myself. I think he's just being selfish. Now he asked for a divorce. Any ideas???
2006-10-09 11:27:40 · 15 answers · asked by blu2u1982 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I can't give you right answer for your situation but evaluate and decide if this kind of behavior is something that you would want from your children. Also, if he asked for the divorce he could very well want one. Consult a lawyer just to cover you and your children in the event he is serious.
2006-10-09 11:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Neisha T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being selfish by expecting you to do everything and you both work. But, you will never get anywhere if you keep asking him to help and you end up in the same place him not helping and worse still, yelling at you and the kids. Try pulling back from him emotionally and just do the things that you need to do for you and your kids. Let him take care of himself and see how he will like that. Sounds like you're doing everything for everyone except yourself...no good. And if he doesn't try to be a part of the marriage, and continues yelling at you and the kids, and he wants a divorce, let him. What's he really doing for you and the relationship anyway? Take care.
2006-10-09 11:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by anyoneawake? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants a divorce then give him one. He is being very selfish! All you are asking for is a little help around the house. Are you seriously thinking about it or just because he brought it up.If you feel that you have did everything in your will to make it work and it isn't then maybe you should consider it
2006-10-09 11:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to ask what is the REAL reason he wants a divorce. Does he have a chemical dependency problem?? Just because you ask him to help out around the house, is hardly a cause for a divorce. What's the real issue?
2006-10-09 11:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to work things out don't be selfish it's your kids that matter they deserve both parents in the house. Or do you want to be one of those mom's driving around on Sundays with the kids and no husband??
2006-10-09 11:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rainbow Brite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit your job so you can be a proper wife and mother. This two-career family is obviously not working and has destroyed your marriage. The pressure and stress of not having a wife and mother in the home is ruining it. He's not beign selfish- you are. You think you should devote 8-10 hours to your career, and be a part-time mother and wife and still expect your MAN to do housework??
Sorry- you need to make a choice- your marriage and family or your job.
2006-10-09 11:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes ,,,, partners of either gender say I do until they don't want to any more ,,,,,,,, If he's not experiencing any medical problems or chemical imbalances then I'd say give yourself and your children a break and let him go ,,,,, He's no good to himself ,,, or you or your children the way things are ,,,,,, Were I you I would explore all avenues before that though ,,,,,, Divorce is a big step with lasting consequences ,,,,,, especially for the young ones ,,,,,, Yoda said that
2006-10-09 11:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIVORE HIM!!!! Look what is best for the kids and yourself??? Hmm... Maybe not some crazy man running around the house yelling at everyone because he is to lazy to do something around the house!!!! Gezze.. Try marriage consoling. Or something but sounds to me like he is some pyscho
2006-10-09 11:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What he's saying is that he wants things to change. He does'nt want a divorce. Try some counselling or a seperation.
2006-10-09 12:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get marriage counselling. If he won't go, then go for yourself to minimize your guilt/grief etc.
You don't mention another woman or addiction so this sounds more like stress.
2006-10-09 11:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋