Do you worry about the chatting to members of the opposite sex? Do you think they are losing touch with reality and spending too much time chatting?
2006-10-09 11:26:42 · 27 answers · asked by kellermanintx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it was excessive, it would bug me.
2006-10-09 11:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind as long as it does not get out of control. My husband and I both get on the internet. My chatting is via e-mail and he does the same. But I always make sure that any guy that chats with me knows that I'm not interested in taking this further than G-rated chatting. Any person that cannot respect that, I cannot take the time to chat with. I love my husband and would not want to hurt him in any way.
2006-10-12 04:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would definitely be put off by my husband "chatting" online; I don't care if it's with same, opposite or neutral sex, or if they're space aliens - chatting online is a huge waste of time. He better be spending this time 1) working and making money; 2) productive hobbies 3) on me (not necessarily in this order). I like my man to be productive.
2006-10-09 11:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,They always say that chatting on the internet when married leads to a divorce. And i know several people who got a divorce b/c of the internet. While they were @ work their spouse would be out seeing the people they met off the internet. If you chat with people off the internet then both of you should be involved. Both you and your spouse be friends with that person.
2006-10-09 11:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF my fiance knew how to use the chat rooms or IM's, then I wouldn't mind. He barely knows how to turn the puter on and use it for e-mail and eBay and Pogo games.
I totally trust my finace more than I have ever trusted anyone else in my whole life--and that is saying a lot because I have had a lot of reasons not to trust anyone in my life. I trust that he wouldn't cheat on me, lie to me, etc. He knows that I talk to guys online and I have one friend online I chat with that is male, and he has no problem with it. He knows that if some guy wants more than a friendship with me, that I will tell them a huge definite NO and block them so they cannot contact me again and that I won't cheat on him. He is the same way with me. We tell each other about everyone and everything in our lives, have a very open communication line going, and neither of us is the jealous type. If either of us were jealous, then it would ruin the whole relationship and neither of us wants that.
If you have a problem with your spouse/SO chatting online with someone else, opposite or same sex, then YOU are the one with the problem and are probably jealous and untrusting, insecure, or something. Those things will ruin a relationship faster than other things and are things that you need to look at in yourself to find out where it is coming from.
2006-10-09 11:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husbands chatting online just about ended our marriage...He would spend hours online talking to a certain girl.. When I asked who he was talking to..he always lied to me and said it was a mutually friend of ours, but I didn't believe him...this went on for about 3 months...she happened to buzz in when she thought he was home so I pretended to be him...boy was I shocked by things that were said and they were both shocked to find out I knew the truth! Thankfully my husband realized that I was more important in his life and has been computer free from nearly 4 months now and he knows not to chat with people anymore and hide it from me cuz I will find out and I will leave...
2006-10-09 15:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously feel they do. An easy way to handle/test the situation is to limit it:
3 days a week or 5 hours a week / day
15 minutes for every hour w/ me.
1 hour for every time we make love.
People, perhaps men especially, think of time as their own outside of work. Gently putting out a brake will let you know if some marriage work is needed: "What do you find on the 'net that I can learn to give you?"
2006-10-09 11:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My spouse would never do that. He's too busy and isn't interested in what any strange woman on the internet has to say. If he started doing that, I'd cancel our ISP and consider counseling.
I wouldn't do it either because I think chatting with strangers is weird and I have nothing to say to any online men.
2006-10-09 11:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it means nothing unless you follow through. I recently chatted with this woman who lives not too far away from me - it was fine for a few days, but when she gave me her phone number and asked me to call her, I had a reality check, realized I was going to far and never spoke to her again. I love my girlfriend and that's what counts.
2006-10-09 11:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by MarQus1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this! My husband was playing poker on the computer and ended up talking to this one group of people. One morning his phone goes off with a text message! I went nuts!!! If they want to write back and forth in the game room, that's one thing, but to be talking on the phone a few days later. NO WAY! Watch out!
2006-10-09 11:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I am against Internet chatting. To me its a game that humans play that, if not careful, can turn dangerous. Talking to a faceless stranger is not my idea of fun.
2006-10-09 11:31:53 · answer #11 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋