my best friend is having problems with her relationship, and everytime she doesn't trust her man, she wants me to call him at he's house at midnight to see if he's asleep or tell me to go search all he's emails and msn messanger, aim, in order to find out if he's cheating on her. I talked to her about it and told her i don't like doing that for her, but she just doesn't understand, i don't want to be in the middle of this, is just stressing me out!!! help people
2006-10-09 11:23:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to explain to your friend that it is not your duty to check up on her boyfriend. That, if she doesn't trust her boyfriend, she shouldn't be with him. First, a relationship isn't real without trust. It only fails when trust doesn't exist. Also, this isn't your problem. Explain to her that you love her, she's your best friend, but that you hate being put in the middle of the situation and you refuse to check up on him anymore. Tell her that it is becoming a nuisance and a bad habit, something you don't enjoy. Even if she gets mad at first; eventually she'll come to her senses and realize what she is having you do is actually quite rude of her. To put her relationship stress on you isn't very nice. You don't have to do it anymore, stand up for yourself, be honest, and say No.
2006-10-09 11:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are not going to get in the middle of her relationship any more. That if she does not trust her boyfriend, then she should leave him, or talk to him, but that is her problem. Be honest with her, tell her you know your relationship is stressing me out. You need to handle your own business, I am here for you, but I just can't do anything like this again.
2006-10-09 18:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, tell her that you can't always be calling her man and getting in the middle of things. Tell her that if she doesn't trust him she needs to talk to him about it instead of pulling in other people.
If she's a true friend she'll understand and give you a break.
2006-10-09 18:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should simply tell her, "look, I love you, you are my friend, but getting in the middle of your relationship is causing me stress that I just can't handle". If she can't appreciate your honesty, then she isn't your friend.
2006-10-09 18:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Amy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no!!! Stay out of this drama...Can you please tell us WHY SHE isn't the one playing private eye??? Tell her that you are not going to do this again...And don't do it. She is no friend to put you in this position. I would suggest that she hire a private investigator...if she really thinks he is cheating...
2006-10-09 18:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋