All right...there's this kid "Joe" here at college...he's always had this superior attitude like he's better than everyone...our school is 99.99% black, and lots of the students come from low-income families....
So Joe sends me a message on myspace asking me who "Rodney" is (a gay friend of mine who lives in MO. We lost contact for ten years and just now got back in touch) Joe saw his picture on I thought he was making fun of Rodney, so I tell Joe that he shouldn't be making fun of gay people or anybody at all... so Joe goes, "I wasn't trying to be funny...I thought he was cute...I'm bisexual, but please don't tell anybody."
Now I'm straight...and I have about 7 gay friends...but I'm not sure if Joe is trying to play a trick on me or if he really is bi...we don't even talk that much...I think it's weird that he'd come out to me....what should I do? Is he playing a trick on me, or is he serious?
2006-10-09 11:18:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you want to play games then do so, because it might get you where you want to go. But I recommend you be more honest with him about this. Try communicating openly and sincerely by asking straightforward questions. If you think hes trying to trick you then tell him so and see how he responds. Or, if you think he is serious look for evidence that points in that direction. But the best way to resolve this I think, is to just be open, honest, and communicative.
2006-10-09 11:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already stated you are straight then it really shouldn't matter to you what Joe's sexual orientation is.
He might think that since you have several gay friends that you might be also.
As a straight person you should just keep this to yourself and move on with your life. You have no reason to do anything else unless Joe pushes for something else.
2006-10-09 11:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by The Eight Ball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in simple terms watch him for a mutually as. If he keeps to talk to you brazenly, he's probably attempting to gage you to confirm if he can have confidence you. Like yet another poster stated, many everybody is shy and are available for the period of as conceited. He probably comfortable once you defended your pal Rodney. As with all of us you're attending to renowned, be on your preserve at first. Who is familiar with, Joe ought to become a great pal. A be attentive to warning...stay out of the matchmaking company. If issues bypass bitter, you should finally end up interior the process a large number. permit acquaintances meet important others on their very own.
2016-11-27 03:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by citizen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he is . It might sound weird to you but maybe he comes from a homophobic family and because he knows that even though you are straight you have a friendly attitude towards gay people he felt he could trust you. Just let this pass and try to talk to him about your doubts. just don't confront him he will flee!!!
2006-10-09 11:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by petit chat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably best just to treat him the same as you have been all along. If you're not sure whether or not he's serious, just don't bring it up. Why should it matter, anyway? Just act like he never said anything about it--then you're not put on the spot.
2006-10-09 11:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by sjs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is most likely serious and needs a friend . He may want to come out to you hoping you would be understanding . Offer him the hand of friendship and see where it goes from there . good luck .
2006-10-09 17:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you! I make sure he sent the message and not some idiot playing a joke or what they call IM blowing or bullying. Just ask if he meant what he said then tell him what ever truth you feel.
2006-10-09 12:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by ggraves1724 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know, but from what you ve said I would be really sceptical. Maybe keep draging him along and not give him a lot of info about anything and see if he can keep his joke up for awhile or this is who he is.
2006-10-09 11:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering the atmosphere, I'd kinda doubt the joke aspect, but one never knows. I'd simply talk to him and get to know him a little better before I decided on any further actions.
2006-10-09 11:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Trust your gut instinct, if you feel he is playing you then stay clear of him. But if you think he is sincere, make a new friend and a possile love connection.
2006-10-09 19:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by Michael R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋